February 24th, 2017

Faith-filled Friday

Name Calling!

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United and our Faith-Filled Friday. John’s had computer issues – please pray for him as I can feel his pain – so I decided to have a little fun with you today and give you an exercise that’s sure to change your perspective. Come on in.

It was a Thursday morning, trench class day, and as I, not so springy, sprung out of bed, my mind began racing with the ‘to-dos’ for the day, so much so that by the time I made it to the coffee pot, my adrenalin was already running as if I’d had my morning dose of caffeine!  I made my two cups anyway, grabbed my rice cake with almond butter and raspberry jam, and off to my writing room I went.

I sat down, grabbed my little I-Pod, scrolled through the list of music, chose an album and as the music filtered out into my soul I realized I needed my quiet time more than anything. So I just sat, allowing the words to penetrate and thereafter flood my soul, inviting the presence of the very One I was there to worship. As I called out for Him, I began to call Him names…names that had significant meaning to me! Surely you didn’t think I meant naughty names? J Speaking these names of adoration out loud is a form of a powerful creation within us, just like when God spoke creation into existence (Genesis 1:1-5)

This name-calling type of worship not only ushered in His presence, it reassured my soul while reminding me of all that He has become to me, through it all, every single circumstance, life change, trauma, illness, birth, death, and despite having my almost two cups of coffee, my soul began to quiet down and my mind’s focus redirected to the moments with Him. The funny thing about this exercise is if you’re really in it, you don’t want it to end!

So can I encourage you to try and sit through one song, write down the names you have for Him, names that have significance to you, names to describe His love for you, or even names that express your need in certain areas, names that describe how He’s provided for you what He has provided for you. My name calling session went something like this: Abba, because He is my ultimate Daddy! Lover of my soul, because I truly love Him above everything, my Mountain Mover, because He has and will continue to move mountains that rise to block me in any area of my life, Provider, because He does provide for all my needs, Dependable because I can always count on Him to be there, even if I’m not always there.

I could literally go on for hours, but it’s your turn. Spend some time calling Him names, and feel your soul fill with quiet strength and confidence and your spirit lift!

Evinda

February 23rd, 2017

Thursday’s Trench Truth

Sometimes we need a break away to get a breakthrough…

A step back in order to move forward

A different view to understand a point of view

A change of scene to come clean…

Join us for our very first Trench Classes United Retreat! Save the dates: August 4-6th!

Coming soon!!!!

February 22nd, 2017

Wednesday’s Word

Clinging to His Promises

Isaiah 66:9: Shall I bring to the point of birth and not cause to bring forth?” says the Lord; “shall I, who cause to bring forth, shut the womb?” says your God. (ESV)

Thanks so much for joining me for Wednesday’s Word & Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. Grab your strand of faith because wow, do we have a knot to tie today!

Last week I transparently shared my heart about the publisher of three of my four books going out of business. As I begin this blog, I am a bit convicted about my selfishness. I mean, geez, I’m not the only one affected, right? I don’t know how many employees they have, but I know it’s many, and the number of authors is even more than that. So as I imagine the Domino effect, my heart is sad for all of us.

But it still doesn’t change my predicament, and the feeling of having the rug ripped right out from underneath me. So what do I do with that? Oh, but His Word comes through again to splash perspective and beauty on something that’s hard to understand and definitely not pretty.

You might look at this verse that I’ve chosen and think, what in the world does this have to do with anything she’s talking about, or anything that I’m going through? Ha, I’m glad you asked! See, the Word is alive, and speaks to us differently, but perfectly for our individuality. Let me explain.

I was having coffee with a girlfriend, something we try to do at least once a month, and we were getting caught up the details of each other’s life, each of us concerned about the other. When I explained to her what had been a bit of a focus while knocking me off balance, she pulled out her phone and within seconds says: “Then this is perfect for you”!

My mouth dropped as I read this particular translation of Isaiah 66:9:

My heart almost immediately changed directions, and now waits to see what will be born from something that is dying! What is the new that He will bring forth from the old?  Perhaps this is where we get the phrase, when one door closes, another opens.  What about you, Coffee Hour Friend, what needs to die so that something new is born? Is there a door closing in on you? Can you take His promises to the bank and trust He’s got a better plan?

There’s one thing we can always count on to never let us down and always lift us up: HIS PROMISES!

Looking for new birth,

Evinda

 

February 21st, 2017

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Welcome to Tuesday’s Trench Truth @ Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. Grab your drink and join me for just a moment of truth.

Do you feel let down by others? Have you ever been hurt by love?  Oh, unrealistic relational expectations can get the best of us in any relationship!

Join us May 4th-June 22nd to learn how to have realistic relational expectations that fuel us with hope and free us from anger!

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Hopeful and free from anger,

Evinda

 

February 20th, 2017

Monday’s Mantra

Are you a Boundary Maker or Boundary Breaker?

Welcome to Monday’s Mantra @ Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United.

Last week in the trenches (trench classes), we were working on a symptom that more of us have than we realize; it’s this sense of worrying about how others perceive us, what they would think of us if… You can fill in the “if” blank with so many different things. As a matter of fact, I was talking with one of my leaders as she was preparing to share in this particular symptom and she had just had a huge victory in setting a material boundary, “but it wasn’t easy,” she kept reminding me.

I assured her that it rarely is when first setting a boundary, but the more we set them…without an attitude, the easier it is. See the hard part is watching the one who is trying to cross the line struggle when you reinforce the line. We wonder if we should erase it, or move it for fear of them not liking us, which equates to worrying about how they perceive us. We can’t handle rejection, so we erase our line…over and over again and pretty soon, we disappear. Not like Houdini but emotionally, we become incapable of expressing our needs and/or wants so what’s left is really a shell.

I experienced a big a-ha when talking with my husband about this symptom. He really doesn’t worry about how others perceive him and often says if someone doesn’t want to be around me, I could care less; I won’t be around them. At first glance, that seems emotionally healthy, but – yup there’s a but in there – when we pull that back and explore it a bit by reminding ourselves of the relationship that seems to be a thorn in our side, the unlovable person in our life, the one we wish would call and make an effort, can we honestly say we don’t worry or even care for that matter about that person and what they think of us, or is that simply the wall we hide behind so we don’t have to deal with it?

As he and I dug into that a little bit, we discovered that perhaps there are those that we really do care about, wonder why they perceive what they seem to be perceiving, and as long as we have done all we can to encourage acceptance, then we are free to be free from worrying about what they perceive or how they perceive us. This is the journey to self-acceptance.

Truthfully,

Evinda

 

February 17th, 2017

Faith filled Friday

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. Grab your favorite break-time drink and your Strand of Faith for what I’ll call a Power Friday…it will just take a couple of minutes.

Did you know there are 59 references to “one-another” in the Love Letters from God (Bible)? In other words, they are instructions for us to participate in, practice and perfect with one another.  Now if the Bible is not something you are familiar with, or you’re not sure what you believe, reading these particular references just may melt your heart!

Most of the “one another” instructions involve encouraging, supporting, living in peace with one another, comforting one another, in other words and what do all those require? You guessed it, LOVE, loving one another. (See Mark 9:50, John 13-34-35 for starters!)

Could it be that there is such an emphasis on relationships and getting along while in this temporary journey because we will be living with “one another” in eternity?

I’m thinking we need to learn to go along and get along with one another as relationships are the greatest teacher in the classroom of life which is preparing us for eternal life!

Thoughtfully,

Evinda

 

February 16th, 2017

Thursday’s Trench Truth

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ and Trench Classes United. It’s Trench Truth day! Grab whatever you’re having and come in for a quick moment of truth and encouragement for your soul.

I am thoroughly enjoying our current trench class as we delve into finding our identity without chaos and confusion. The information we are learning is so transforming…shocking in a gentle sort of way, and incredibly freeing.

I shared on Tuesday about buying into the lie that “sameness” means closeness, and trying to be like the one you’re with is like becoming a human pretzel! And yet, there is to be an intertwining, if you will, of ourselves with the ones we love – not just romantically, either! J

What does that look like? I’m so glad you asked! Here are some characteristics of healthy intertwining:

 

  • When each person in the relationship – any relationship takes two people – ideally stands alone with the privilege of the giving and taking to and from the other.
  • Each person wanting, not demanding the other to care for them while realizing they don’t have to; they get to!
  • Each person choosing to care for the other and choosing to let them care for you…

This is healthy interdependence! Oh, to be healthily entwined, perfectly interdependent!

Love,

Evinda

February 15th, 2017

Wednesday’s Word

ALL THINGS?

Romans 8:28: And we know (experience) that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

 

Thanks so much for stopping by for Wednesday’s Word @ Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. Grab your coffee, or favorite break-time drink, your Strand of Faith, and join me for my latest plight, aka, another opportunity for God to be God.

Before Christmas, a local author sent me an email letting me know my publisher was going out of business, saying he thought I’d like to know. I replied back with a quick thank you, and did NOT click on the link for a few days. Finally curiosity ruled over all my other to-do’s and I clicked on the article.

As I read the article, I was puzzled about how my author friend heard about this before me, how this information leaked out before the publisher contacted all of its authors, but there it was, in black and white: they were struggling and not staying afloat, but it also hinted that they were still in the struggle.

And then a few weeks ago it came via email, an offer to extricate from the publisher by signing a piece of paper stating so, and also stating my books were going out of print. I IGNORED it because I didn’t know what to do and also because it said they were trying to find publishers for authors who didn’t want to sign the release form.

Yesterday, I dared to open the file again and read the fine print…the offer has expired! I can’t even begin to describe what I’m feeling inside as I write this. The only thing I am confident about at this very moment is this didn’t knock Him off His throne, and somehow, some way, He’s going to weave this ugliness into the tapestry of my life and it will add color, beauty, and bring Him glory. I have no idea how; I just have to trust Him, which isn’t hard for me to do. He’s proven His promises to me over and over again. It’s the waiting and the wondering, which way do I go; do I sign this paper, get my files back – and then what? How do I move forward in this? Where do I go?

I realize that my blog is supposed to encourage you…today, I am afraid it’s the opposite: I need a bit of encouragement from you! Would you agree to pray for me, that He would either send me an agent or publisher or lead me in the way I should go as I wait for Him to work all of this out for my good and His glory because He knows I do love him and I am called to carry out His purpose…I just need a confirmation of the purpose and the calling!

From my heart to yours,

Evinda

February 14th, 2017

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

 

Thanks so much for joining me for Tuesday’s Trench Truth, and Happy Valentine’s Day to you! This blog is for all, but dedicated to those who think they don’t have a Valentine. Grab whatever you’re having for our break and come on in for just a minute or two.

 

Have you ever watched a friend “fall” in love? It’s like this morphing that takes place before your very eyes: their countenance changes; their attitude changes; their somewhat happy face now has a lopsided grin more often than not. They are giddy, upbeat and there’s a sort of dance in their step.

Why do you think that happens?

In my opinion and experience, it’s because we feel accepted, approved and valued, all of which are GOD-given needs to each one of us!

But what happens when we begin to discover differences…things change! We make it a negative when really it could be a positive.

See, most of us have bought into several relational lies as it relates to sameness in relationships, believing that if we are the same in lots of areas, and we don’t argue that we have a great relationship…FALSE! If you are really honest and think about it, to want to be the same as the one you’re with like saying we have a good relationship…as long as we don’t talk about anything serious!

The desire for “perceived sameness” often leads to becoming a human pretzel!

Are you bending over backwards, inwards, sideways, this way, that way to be like the one you’re with, or are you confident to be who you really are?

Let’s remember that “love” is a verb, not a feeling, an action that should be put in action to all who come our way…not just our Valentine!

Love,

Evinda

February 13th, 2017

Monday’s Mantra

 

 

Welcome to Monday’s Mantra & Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. Grab your favorite break-time drink and your Strand of Faith and let’s go talk about a different kind of love not always found in a “Valentine.”

 

I remember when Valentine’s Day used to be my least favorite day – and that’s putting it mildly. Watching friends get flowers, teddy-bears, Valentines of varying degrees was like a finger pointing at me, mocking me for my lack of a Valentine. I was in my SOS (season of singleness) and as I look back on it now, I’m so, so grateful for that season! Of course, in the beginning of it, I wasn’t so comfortable because I wasn’t comfortable in my own skin, let alone the mere thought of living alone for always. Through a number of years, counseling, education, and even through writing, God has spoken this very truth to me to free me from the wrong placement of my need of others:
You can’t connect with others healthily when you are disconnected from yourself!

Could it be that we need to really believe that in order to be someone, we don’t have to have someone, because we have The One…whose love never fails. For many of us, that truth hasn’t quite made the 12-inch leap from head to heart, but can I encourage you to begin, if you haven’t already, to fall in love with the One who will never leave you or forsake you? You can’t experience true love until God becomes your first love…then you won’t fall out of love!

1st John, 4:16 tells us that in order to experience true love, we must know (by experience) and believe the love that God has for us. Whose love do you abide in?
Thoughtfully,

Evinda,