Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power – Friends and Friendships, continued…

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power, and welcome back to the Friends and Friendships series. I saw something on TV the other night that had to do exactly with what we left off with so grab your coffee and come on in.

So I love to dance, and I love to watch “So You Think You Can Dance!” I’m so glad for the ability to record! Talk about convenience and a timesaver when you skip right over the infomercials! Well, I finally watched last Wednesday’s show and was that amazing or what? The four remaining dancers were beyond incredible.

Anyway, Travis choreographed a powerful piece to the song “How it Ends,” and it was about a friendship gone wrong because one friend stabbed the other in the back. Kent danced with Neil – yes, it was two guys, but there was nothing homosexual about it. It was all about a BFF stabbing another in the back. I’ve never seen Kent dance with such emotion. It truly was powerfully painful and beautiful at the same time.

After Nigel complimented the dancers, he turned to Travis and said, “Can I ask, has someone done that to you recently, stabbed you in the back?” The camera scans until it stops right there on Travis’s face and he didn’t even have to answer. You could see it in his eyes, but he did answer with a nod of his head and a shadow of sorrow tinting his face. It was/is obviously still raw for him, the pain inflicted upon him by his friend, and yet something so beautiful came out of it. Something tells me he does recognize that; after all, he’s an artist and he expresses himself through his dance.

That brings me to you and I. I’d venture to say that most of us have been hurt deeply by friends, and some of the inflicted hurts go deeper than others. I think the more we invest in a friendship, the deeper the hurt. I know just recently I suffered a severe wound to the heart by someone I had invested a great deal into, and yet if I’m honest and look at the flip side of that, I experienced great joys with this person too because of how much I was willing to invest. I’ve come to understand and expect that Godly people are capable of doing ungodly things and people are going to let us down. It just reinforces that the core of my heart belongs to my Heavenly Father who will NEVER leave me or forsake me.

Now going to the other side of the scenario, if we’re brutally honest, we can say that we’ve been the one to hurt another as well. I have to say that after experiencing this latest stab to the heart, and doing this series, I can’t imagine ever being the one to purposely hurt a friend.

How do we get over it? I wish I could say there’s some magic cure for the pain that can turn into bitterness, but there isn’t. The miracle only happens when we let go of the pain and ask Him to help us to be willing to be willing to be willing to be willing (go ahead, put a few more in there) to let it go and He WILL take it from us. It is in this process that we are able to truly forgive, and when we have truly forgiven, we experience a freedom that brings a peace that surpasses all understanding. Why does it surpass all understanding? I’m thinking it’s because that’s not the way of this world.

Join me tomorrow when we distinguish between letting go and getting even.

Have an awesome day



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2 Responses to “Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power – Friends and Friendships, continued…”

  1. Shari says:

    What great insight! One thing I know that I know that I know (and you can put a few more in there) is that you are not even capable of intentionally hurting someone. I feel the same. Great blog.

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