Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power-Friends and Friendships, continued

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome back to the Friends and Friendships series. I can’t wait to pick up where we left off, because I have some really good news for you. Get your coffee and come on in.

A few days ago, I shared with you that the key to letting go instead of getting even, and the way to get over scar tissue caused by a “friend” was found in Romans 12, verses 17-21.

So we already talked about verse 17, which tells us NOT to repay evil for evil. Make no mistake, when someone wrongs us, it is evil, and not just in your eyes, but HIS too. He hurts when you and I hurt. And the hurt is so real because you feel it almost as if you can see it, touch it.

But what if anger and hurt were something you could physically hold? Would you be able to fill a one-gallon container? Are you holding on to so much past hurt and/or anger that you could fill a five-gallon container? Guess who’s weighted down with unnecessary baggage? You and I, not the one(s) who hurt us!

But wait a minute, let’s look at verse 18. “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men/women.” Look at the verse again. I’m so excited because look at the first word, “IF.” That tells me that HE knew way back when the scriptures were inspired that there were going to be people hurting people and that there were going to be these “iffy” situations.

Can you see that He’s given you and me some leg room with this tiny word “if.” He’s not saying keep going back for more, because some people just don’t know how to be true friends, but as much as depends on you (and me), live peaceably.

“As much as depends on you” means that you/I are responsible for our actions, what we do with our hurts and sorrows. Are we going to bow at His feet and pour them out to Him, or are we going to hang on to our gallons and allow the pain inside to spill on others we care about, other friendships, family members? I don’t know about you, but I’m thinking I want my five-gallon jug emptied.

I read something profoundly analogous to this subject in my Al-Anon book that goes something like this: “The choice is not whether to hurt or not to hurt, but what to do while I am hurting.”

Make it a great day and may your load be lighter….



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2 Responses to “Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power-Friends and Friendships, continued”

  1. karen says:

    Geez, you’re more satisfying to my spirit than Chinese buffet is to my body. Ain’t no higher compliment that I could give you than that! Hope you had a great birthday, hon. I’m driving to Arizona tomorrow to spend it with Mark (and ONLY Mark).
    You may only weigh 83 pounds, but you’re my rock!

  2. Shari says:

    Wonderful. Thank God, most of the time, time helps; but, we also have to take responsibility for making the effort to put hurts behind us. Love this one.