Five Ways to Succeed in Life and Love-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Welcome back to our “Five Ways to Succeed in Life and Love” series! I’m blessed that you chose to join me today for a little break. Grab your coffee and come on in. We are actually just getting into the second step. 🙂

The first definition, “to perform repeatedly or habitually, to practice,” is a definition that actually takes some of the sting out of the word “commit,” and yet, I think we have put that sting in there, sort of legalized it so when we hear this word, we automatically cringe inwardly. Anyway, to practice implies, at least to me, that I’m going to make mistakes, and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, especially if we resolve – partner with the Holy Spirit – to learn from those mistakes, but it also makes it less daunting, knowing that to commit, we don’t have to be perfect. 🙂 Can I get an AME N!

“To practice” implies imperfection and there’s some freedom in admitting that, and yet we don’t need to use that as a crutch that prevents us from showing up in life. Instead, because we partner with the Holy Spirit (resolve), we can have an attitude of commitment-practicing. See, there’s grace when we commit, and grace is what cushions the falls that we will inevitably experience because we are not perfect. I don’t know about you, but a big gush of relief pops right on out of me when I let that sink in. 🙂

Now, the Hebrew definition says that “to commit” is “to watch over with intensity.” Let’s chew on that for a bit, pardon the pun! 🙂 This is in no way, shape or form condoning an attitude of control. Oh, I’m getting a great example right now so let me share it with you.

I’m going to use an example that because of my past, I’m able to recognize it with a lot of clarity. There is a person who is more out of my life than she is in, but in the past, I’ve watched her “watch over” the one she’s committed to with a level of intensity that has turned nearly fatal, trying to control his every move, blowing up his phone to the tune of a minimum of 20 times — while he’s working, no less — and that’s on a day when she’s not feeling so insecure. And if he doesn’t answer the phone, then she makes his life miserable – but then again, he allows it. Oh, what an ugly cycle! And this is the lesser of the ways that she has watched over him intensely, but I use it to shed some light into our own closets. 🙂

This is not the kind of watching over that true commitment is speaking of. We can no more control who we commit to than sprout wings and fly. Join me tomorrow for more understanding in this freeing word, commit!

Convinced to commit,

Evinda

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