Five Ways to Succeed in Life & Love-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks so much for joining me today for a break. I love knowing there’s you to share my heart and my discoveries with. Grab your coffee and come on in. Let’s get back to this first word, the first way to succeed in life and love. 🙂

So to pick up where we left off with this word resolve, whether you believe in the history of Adam and Eve or not, the truth is we were created with a God-sized hole, a need for security, hope and acceptance. The problem is we tend to search for that necessary security, hope and acceptance in earthly things — such as our careers, possessions — and in relationships/people. And honestly, to put that kind of pressure on a person, friend, significant other or spouse, is completely setting ourselves and the relationship up for failure.

My past failures have taught me that very important truth, and maybe that’s why I get so excited talking about this first way to succeed in life and love, to resolve. After two failed marriages, losing my son for years to the streets to feed his addictions, I have come to rely on the help of the Holy Spirit in all my relationships and I know that I know that because of my “partnering with the Holy Spirit,” that I am free from putting those unrealistic expectations on the people that I care about. In other words, my emotional and spiritual well being is no longer dependent upon another person.

Let me see if I can clear up the waters a little bit. I am definitely happily married, and I love knowing there’s George to share life with, and I would be devastated if something happened to him, or us, no doubt, but I wouldn’t be destroyed like I have been in the past by life and love. The freedom lies in the truth that my emotional and spiritual well being are not wrapped up in my husband nor my son, like it once was. See, when the one I was with wasn’t loving me the way I thought I should be loved, my emotional well-being spiraled downward at such a fast pace, that I was broken when I crashed. And my son, whew, if he wasn’t doing okay, well then neither was I because after all, he’s an extension of me, right? WRONG! 🙂

Okay. Let me give you one more definition for this very important word which we need to understand so we can succeed in life and love. The definition for resolve goes on to say: to cause to find a solution to; to decide, determine and/or agree to a specific course of action.

Well, that certainly sounds in line with success in life and love.

Thoughtfully,

Evinda

 

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One Response to “Five Ways to Succeed in Life & Love-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power”

  1. Jan Bachelor says:

    Right on girl. Depending on “folk” is always an iffy situation. Depending on the Holy Spirit within us is always going to lift us to where we are on solid ground.