If I could have coffee with God . . . From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by to join me for your coffee hour. I’ve invited a special guest because I figured we should get back to our tough question from the “If I could have coffee with God . . .” series, and that question being, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” This has definitely turned into a much longer series than I ever anticipated, but then again, that’s what I get for anticipating since I’m really not the one steering the course; He is! Anyway, grab your coffee and come on in so I can share more of what was on my friend’s list which is all about bad things that happen to good people. 😉

So to recap: because of not being nurtured by her mom, and having such a weak frame built by her dad, that fed the feelings of not fitting in which rooted deep within her a need for significance, a need to belong, to be needed, to love and be loved. All of this explains what happened next in her life at the age of 21.

This is how she explained it: “In 1968, I got pregnant and was not married. I was told by ALL family members, ‘either give the child up for adoption or we will have nothing further to do with you’.” She said she prayed to God that He would intervene with her family and that did not happen so she had to give the child up. Ouch! 🙁

This is a wound that is obviously not going to just go away but what makes this wound even more difficult to heal is the way it is wrapped in bitterness. What her family did, how they treated her was very unfortunate and though they were Methodists, “believers,” they sure didn’t have a grip on the gift of grace.

There’s a couple of points to sharpen in this one “bad” thing, the first of which is to remind us that we are NOT His robots. God did not make her family treat her that way; nor did God cause her to seek love out of time and bring a child into the world out of wedlock. BUT, and this is a big one, I know with my whole being that He could have made something beautiful out of what seemed to be so devastating at the time with this pregnancy. But my sweet friend was already crippled with unbelief and a victim mentality and this only caused her to go deeper. The truth is HE still can make something beautiful come out of this particular something that is still so painful.

Here’s something very interesting about her situation, and it has to do with something she wrote on her list. She said that she “became a Christian in 1970,” which begs the conclusion that apparently she had not given her heart to Him until then, but yet, she prayed and cried out to Him often.

DETOUR AHEAD! Sorry, but this is just stirring up another very important question, and after all, we need to dig and delve beneath the surface when it comes to understanding this very tough subject of bad stuff happening to good people.

The detour I must take has to do with God and if He hears the prayers from an “unsaved” soul — meaning one who has not confessed Christ as his/her savior and is therefore unforgiven for all his/her sins (missing the mark) — and let me share what I’ve found. There is a verse – actually I’m sure there are several, but for the sake of time, let me give you this one that could be applicable to both an unsaved person as well as one who is saved: Jeremiah 29:13 says “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with your whole heart.

Now, I could go off on a seriously long detour on that one, but I won’t. 🙂 Suffice it to say, prayer is a form of seeking, and yet, we are told that it requires the whole heart.

Now I don’t claim, nor will I ever claim to have the video camera into anyone’s heart, including my friend who we are talking about here, and I can just hear you asking: Is that why her prayers weren’t answered before she became a Christian? One could argue that He knew she was going to become one, so why not give her an advance, so to speak? 🙂 I think He might remind us that when we accept Him with our hearts, and confess with our mouths that He is Lord, we can then come boldly to the throne of grace in time of need, and it is then that He can and will take all of the “bad” of the past and use it for one’s good and His glory.

Oh, how I believe this because He’s done it for me. Join me next week for more of this true story which gets happy for a minute. 🙂

Thoughtfully,

Evinda

 

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