It’s Every Man for Himself; Every Woman for Herself. . . NOT! October’s WOW From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks so much for sharing your coffee break with me and for coming back for the conclusion to our monthly WOW, aka, Words of Wisdom and/or Weapons of Warfare. October’s WOW is from Philippians 2:3-4. Grab your coffee and come on in for a few! 🙂

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition (strife) or conceit, but in lowliness (humility) of mind, let each esteem others better than himself (herself). Let each of you look out not only for his (her) own interests, but also for the interests of others.

Now let me share how this came to life in my heart just days ago. I finished my “coffee hour” with Abba, and had had a sweet time. I was planning on taking a quick run so I could begin putting the skit for our next event together in my mind. Anyway, I was ready for the day, a day that I was beginning to plan the moment my feet hit the stairs headed for our home office. It was going to be another full day. 🙂

By the time I sat at my desk, I had at least 15 things to put on my “to do” list. I began to write them down, had gotten to number 3 and the doorbell rang, startling me because I wasn’t expecting anyone.

I went to the door feeling pangs of irritation at the interruption to my day. (Tell me, am I the only one that ever feels like this?) 🙂 I peeked through the hole and nearly gasped. What in the world is she doing here? The daughter of a close friend stood there and my heart began to beat really fast as I remembered that two weeks ago we had talked about getting together, but I had asked her to call and confirm when and what time. She had requested my help in writing some content for a PR package for her new company and we had talked about going for a run together and then coming back and doing some brainstorming.

I am still baffled as I write this because I don’t remember ever confirming a day with her, much less a time. As a matter of fact, I’d like to think that would be something I would definitely block out on the calendar because this isn’t just a casual acquaintance needing my help; this is the daughter of friends who took me into their home after my second divorce, a place I stayed until I got my wings back, and on the mend from my broken heart until I could fly on my own.

Well, she had driven all the way from Upland so it wasn’t like I could say, “Sorry, I don’t have time for you,” but trust me, I wanted to soooooo bad! Oh, how I really wanted to just not answer that door!

I stood there in a quandary as I ran a couple of scenarios through my mind: I could always pretend I’m not here. No, I can’t do that. I could open up the door and ask her, “What are you doing here?” No, I couldn’t do that, either. Oh, what to do?

I opened up the door and pretended not to be surprised, which took every ounce of self-control! Love those fruits of the spirit! 🙂 I drew her into my arms and gave her a hug and welcomed her, which she reciprocated. She noticed I was dressed for running and asked if I had gone yet. I told her no. She suggested I go ahead and go, that she had a lot of work that she could do while I was gone and then when I came back we’d get started. But then she began talking to me about all of her ideas and I felt like I was going to drown.

See, she’s a lot like her dad, highly intelligent, filled with brilliant ideas and no idea how to bring them to fruition. It was like they were all inside of her waiting to be exhaled so she could breathe. I held up my hands. Whoa, I said. “You’ve got a lot of little circles going on in all of that.”

She smiled. “I know, but you have to look at all of this spherically, not linearly.” She reminded me so much of her father who is a brilliant man, a man who loves God with all of his heart, a man impossible to work for because he has so many brilliant ideas and thoughts and overwhelms everyone with a need to chase them, or at least that is what it felt like when I worked for him so many years ago. 🙂

The need for escape overcame me. “I’ll be back. You’ve given me plenty to think about on my run.” I left with my blood boiling, my IPod clipped to my shorts and as I closed the door, I put the earphones in and swallowed the tears that were threatening to spill over but they stayed stuck in my throat.

The first half of my run – all uphill! Ugh! – was spent arguing with God, trying to convince Him that I didn’t have time for this, distracted by the unimportant fact that no time had been confirmed and how dare her just waltz in on my day. I had things to do for my ministry and didn’t she know how busy I was? 🙁 🙂

Before I turned to start heading back home, our WOW echoed in my heart, especially the last part of it, verse 4: Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. They nearly stopped me in my tracks!

Those words reminded me to ask Him for His help and literally carried me home. By the time I walked up our driveway and into our home, I had a new attitude and I was equipped to deal with what I thought was an interruption to “my” day!

This story could actually take a few more blogs, but let me just share with you that the next hour and a half that I surrendered unto Him was spent speaking into her life through writing and helping her find focus for her project. See, ever since she was a little girl, she has had a rebellious attitude toward anything having to do with God and Jesus. She’s had to explore and find her own way. After spending that time with her, I am convinced once again of His promise that though she has taken many detours, she will find her way to Him and that I am indeed no better than her. I am but His vessel that simply showed up and surrendered! 🙂

Thank you, Father, for speaking Words of Wisdom into my heart once again.



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11 Responses to “It’s Every Man for Himself; Every Woman for Herself. . . NOT! October’s WOW From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power”

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    Wow! It’s funny how we have a list of things “we” have planned for the day that need to get done;however, God sometimes has other plans for us. 🙂

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  8. Jan Bachelor says:

    I love the “WOW” moments especially since I just experienced one of these myself. I am so not comfortable with folks who just “drop in” because, like you, I have my day planned and I absolutely hate my schedule interrupted when I am not prepared. Just as you did, I made it thru it all. I must admit that the rest of the day was a real mess of rushing and impatient attitude. Yep, should have had your insight then. Ha I am always learning that “I” am not the center and that “He” is in charge of all.
    Thank you. Love Nanny-Mom

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