It’s all about perception-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power-“If I could have coffee with God…”

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by. I hope you’ve noticed that our coffee hour has been a little different lately and that’s because we’re imagining that we’re having coffee with God and we’ve been trying to get to some answers to the tough question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” So find that comfy and quiet place and don’t forget to invite Him because He’s waiting for you and me.

We left off with the understanding about generational cycles, at least I hope there was an understanding :), but let me just recap it quickly to catch you up. It’s a little easier to understand when you come to the point that you agree that no one is born perfect, rather, we are all born with a tendency to do things that cause us to miss the mark, aka, sin, thus the cycle begins.

For instance, I can, without even trying, trace the generational cycle of addiction back to my mother’s father. I never knew my grandfather or my great grandparents, but I do know that my mom used to smoke and drink with her dad. He’s the one who passed on to her the tendency to drink and smoke. BUT — uh-huh, I said “but,” and this is a big one – she had a choice to be different!  🙂 🙁 🙂 I know, that brings mixed emotions!

And I have also learned that she had many opportunities to choose to change for her own eternal good. Thank God she finally took that opportunity a few hours before she passed.  🙂 🙂

Anyway, many of us have junk heaped upon us by the generation(s) before us, but we can’t use that as an excuse to stay buried underneath it all and be ripped off from our own Destination? Joyful! ™

The same is true for my friend who has given me her list to share her perspective and vent all the reasons why she’s angry with God and doesn’t want a relationship with Him. She must choose to change her way of thinking, because as I read through a lot of this list/summary, and obviously I’m on the outside looking in which automatically gives me a different perspective, but I have been right in the thick of much of this pooh that she’s gone through – much of this can be changed by perspective. Okay, I’ll get off my box and get back to her list. 🙂

So based on what she’s told us so far about her parents, she is without her framework and without any nurturing, because a daddy builds a child’s frame and the mommy colors it in. I guarantee you that because of this poorly built frame and no real nurturing, her perception of God is definitely inaccurate. Unfortunately, when our earthly parents are not such good examples and hurt us with their style of parenting or not parenting, if not dealt with, it interferes with every relationship and it most certainly makes it difficult to embrace and grasp an unconditionally loving God .

It is because of that lack of knowing – by the way, this kind of knowing translates to ginosko, which means to know with your inner being, which can only be possible with experience. Okay, back to what I was saying. 🙂 So because she, like many of us, doesn’t know God and doesn’t have an accurate understanding of Him, and His love for us, no experience with His grace, is it any wonder that the blame for all the bad is always put upon our God?

My friend has admitted that during her childhood and middle years, despite going to church and praying and asking Him for guidance, she says He never showed up. In other words, she feels as though He never paid any attention to her cries. I know for a fact that every time she wept, He was right there and because of her perception, she couldn’t and wouldn’t recognize His presence in her life. That reminds me of a chapter in my first book, “The Men in and out of her Life” entitled, WWW, Walking Wounded Woman. Oh that we would go to battle in prayer for all those WWWs.

I better let you go for the day, but thanks again for coming by. We’ll get back to this series later on in the week.

Love and friendship,


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2 Responses to “It’s all about perception-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power-“If I could have coffee with God…””

  1. Jan Bachelor says:

    This whole scenario is so interesting, and boy, I can see myself in so many of these same situations and how blessed I am that God’s Holy Spirit gave me sight to see the picture of my life thru His eyes!!!!

  2. Jan Bachelor says:

    Golly, I am sending e-mails to others for them to read these series of blogs. These have been real eye openers.