Jenn’s Journey

Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power...

Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power…

Welcome to Monday’s blog! This will be a busy week getting ready for Thanksgiving. Wishing you safe travels, happy times with family or friends…and lots of pie! 🙂

I’ve had a lot of fun spending time in my daughter’s 1st grade class. Today we made turkeys out of cookies, chocolate frosting and various candies. Kids have such creativity. Their joy and enthusiasm is contagious!

It’s quite interesting to observe behaviors.  It can’t help but make me think. My daughter was involved in a squabble today over some crayons. One of the girls in her group picked up two crayons from the floor and said they were hers…however they did not match the brand she had on her desk. Then she insisted that they belonged to the boy at the other desk. My daughter claimed they were her crayons and that the other girl had borrowed them. This went back and forth for several minutes. Long story short, the teacher came to solve the issue and decided to take away the crayons. My daughter insisted that the other girl had borrowed them and they were hers. Again, the other girl was questioned and finally owned up that yes, she had indeed borrowed the crayons.

A couple of us talked afterwards with the teacher about this little spat. How easily the entire thing could have been solved if the girl had just admitted that she borrowed the crayons in the first place. Yet, it seemed that being right meant more at the moment. Oh, how I resemble this! Sad to say! How many times has being right meant more to me than backing down on an issue or argument? Too many!

I’ve decided that I need to strike the word ‘but’ from my vocabulary. At least when it comes to something I’ve done wrong. “But she made me mad so I had to say something.” “But he cut me off on the freeway so I had to flip him the bird!”  “But he said,” “but she said,” but, but, NO MORE buts!

Why is it so difficult to just admit a mistake? And why do I want to point out others’ mistakes?  I think it boils down to pride. I don’t want to be the only one with flaws. Or maybe I want to deflect the attention from mine to the other person’s. Either way, it’s a way of seeming in the right.

“Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.” Romans 12:3

Until next week, be blessed,

JennJenn

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2 Responses to “Jenn’s Journey”

  1. Some Guy says:

    In [P]latoon [C]onfidence [T]raining with Rangers & Special Forces we had a 1st Sgt. that said something once while we were in formation that has stuck with me through all the years since. “Everything past ‘But’ is Bull Sh_t!” How true that is, it has proven itself time & time again.

    Another reason why people like to point out other people’s wrong doing’s is because down deep for most people it feels good to recognize really any mistake and it feels even better when it’s not one’s OWN mistake being made. But some people do really love to point out and be critical of other’s mistakes. I myself have had to learn to back off in these situations unless of course it has something to do with safety or time is of the essence. I have also learned that we don’t have to tell people something they did is wrong. We can congratulate them on their effort and tell them it happens to the best of us and if they are willing to take the help that you can help them. I have often been critical of my brother in the way he does things. Because he’s always complaining about time, and yet he drags his feet or does things ultra slow. It can get on my nerves. But often it’s because he was probably doing something to help me in the first place. I actually don’t like to point out people’s mistakes. We should all be free to make them without be judged… The wrong time to want to show someone a better way to do something is when they were stressed because they were failing or taking a long time at it. But if they don’t seem to be then it might be ok to ask if you can help out with an easier way. In the military they called that “Workin’ Smarter no Harder.”

  2. Some Guy says:

    As far as being wrong… no one likes being wrong. It took me years to be o.k. with being wrong. I learned we will never like it, but we should own it. By owning it means we take what comes with making that mistake. Being wrong though is like losing… who like’s to lose? But why must we look at it this way? It’s just part of the game of life. We are bound to make mistakes. But we bypass so much stress and arguing if a person can just say “My bad, I messed up!” The more you do it the easier it is to say… and I can promise you that it doesn’t mean that any less will you ever get to the point where you don’t care you made a mistake as that in itself still really is the pits.