Nana Holds From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thank you for joining me today for a little getaway into a situation that is becoming more and more common, where grandparents are raising their children’s children if only for a season of their life or longer . . . Grab your coffee and come on in.

George and I came to appreciate greatly the legality of the role of guardians, not that we were on a power trip by any means, but because we were able to limit visitation, it allowed us to build more structure in little Bry’s life which would build a stronger, more stable foundation for him in the years to come.

I’ve come to a greater appreciation and understanding as far as the role of a grandparent and at the risk of disagreeing with others, I dare say that our role as grandparents is NOT to spoil the child and then send them back to their parents. What a mixed message that sends to the child; and it truly makes things difficult for the parent.

You might be saying, no, that’s not a mixed message, just a tradition. Grandchild comes to grandparents’ home, gets

Nana Holds!

Nana Holds!

spoiled rotten with love, sugar, toys, and anything else the child desires, and when the child becomes contentious, willful, disobedient, throws a fit and falls in it – and they will – what is the grandparent(s) to do?

Hmm, I see two words in “grandparent.” PARENT is one of them! And I’m thinking since “grand” is the other part of the word it would mean parenting on a grander scale! When we are grandparents, shouldn’t we be more patient? More wise? And all because of more experienced? Shouldn’t there still be “parenting” involved?

What are your thoughts about this? I’ll let you go for now but please come back tomorrow.

In His grip,

Evinda

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3 Responses to “Nana Holds From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power”

  1. Gay says:

    I cant’ agree with you more. My son’s one and only Grandpa was a wonderful man, but boy did he have that spoiling mastered. He allowed his grandchildren to break all the rules and also gave elaborate gifts that we never would have considered. I don’t think my son was damaged in any way by any of it, but it sure puts pressure on the parent. Caleb only knew him 5 short years and I would give anything to have him in Caleb’s life today because of his internal wisdom. We miss Grandpa John!!

  2. Gay,
    thank you for sharing that…. Your grandpa sounds like a wonderful man… 🙂 It’s so good for our children to have fond memories of their grandparents with undivided hearts! 🙂

  3. Jan Bachelor says:

    Yep, being a grandparent can be “grand”, the parenting part is harder. You have more children to love and to love you back, but respect, in my book, is not an option it is absolute. You can be fun, funny, loving, playful, uplifting of them and their goals, understanding, comforting and praising and give them “sugar”. But, without respect of your position above them and their acknowledgement of that fact you’ve dropped the ball in your duty as a grandparent. How can they love, admire and trust you if you don’t love and respect yourself enough to require it??