Nana Holds From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Coffee Hour!

Thanks so much for joining me today for a little break. I hope you are enjoying your summer so far. Grab your coffee – iced or hot – and come on in for a while, away from the demands on you and the distractions. 🙂

We left off with me coming home to the noise of Bryce moving in, and if I could describe the noise, I’d have to compare it to a bull in an enclosed wood box – well, maybe not that loud, but you get the picture. 🙂 My space was officially being invaded!

A few thoughts began to run through my mind: Is he mad? Doesn’t he know how to treat nice furniture? I could share several more, but I’m sure you can tell the negative mindset I was in. I bit my tongue, and hard, a gesture I could tell was going to become a necessary habit in the ensuing days, weeks and months to come as I constantly ran into things that told me that there was a person living in the house who didn’t know how to participate in life around the house.

I literally had to turn the camera inward so as to get the focus off of him and all of the things that were glaringly getting on my last nerve. When I truly committed to doing that, He showed me some powerful things: Bryce didn’t have any self-respect; therefore it stands to reason he wouldn’t have a whole lot of respect for others or their possessions.

In my quite time, Abba also revealed that because of his volatile relationship with the mother of Bryden, his

Sweet Baby Bryden

communication skills were almost nonexistent. See, any time we wanted to talk with Bryce, his defenses shot up like a missile because he thought we were trying to fight with him. That was a big one, one that helped me to become more patient, approach him in a more gentle way because there was no room for frustration when it came time to communicate a frustration!

As the months went by, there were other things revealed in my times of being still, things that helped me cope through this painful season of growth that reminded me oh so much of the nightmares of my season of single-parenting my then drug-addicted son.

The challenges continued to come, one right after the other. There would be a few days of calm, and then, out from left field, another issue that needed to be dealt with in some way, but most of the time, they weren’t. These challenges were purposeful for me, ridding me of remnants of things such as co-dependency, learning how to not allow my emotions and this whole situation to drive me to the moon and back in a sky-rocketing second, and the biggest challenge was not allowing all the conflict that seemed to be running rampant in our home to destroy our marriage!

As an aside, I’m remembering what Steve taught us at the beginning of the year at our Resolutions and Relationships workshop; that when you choose to stay in marriage through conflict, thatis marriage! Thank you Father for giving me the opportunity to remain true in covenant!

Me and my covenant partner!

It was because of me hanging on, sometimes by my fingernails, to my relationship with Christ that I can close today’s blog with the truth: that by this time in our journey, I learned to have my own relationship with Bryce!

Join me on Thursday for more as we finally get to who Nana’s holding!

Encouraged,

Evinda

 

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One Response to “Nana Holds From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power”

  1. Jan Bachelor says:

    You’ve come a long way baby!