Nana Holds From Coffee Hour@Chicklit Power

Coffee Hour!

Thanks so much for joining me today for a little break! I’m so glad you could come. Grab your coffee and let’s get back to this series. I was just in the midst of giving you some background on little Bryden and his daddy.

So several times in the first year of Bryden’s life, he got to go visit his other Nana — he calls her Mamma — up north for weeks and months at a time. You may be wondering why that was, but at the risk of demeaning his mommy, let me just say that she wasn’t ready to be his mommy full-time for medical/mental and emotional reasons. I’m really trying to remember that if it’s not edifying, I better not say it because I never want my words to tear someone down; on the contrary, my heart’s desire is that my words would be used to lift others up.

Shortly after Bryden’s first birthday, he went to live with his mamma while mommy and daddy continued on their self-destructive paths and eventually they split up. Unbeknownst to us at the time, Bryce would make several trips up north on the weekends because being away from his son was tearing him up inside and stirring up emotions too close for comfort.Bryden, newborn-3months

Despite the differences between him and the mommy of little Bryden, Bryce would continuously defend her, reminding all of us concerned that she was his mom, after all. We were all continuously baffled every time he would go back to her after a volatile emotional explosion that supposedly ended their relationship. Looking back on it now, I am convinced that his desire to be a family, despite the circumstances, loomed unhealthily over him because of the ripping apart of his own family. See, a child never loses hope in the “Happily ever after” motto that they grow up hearing about, and thereafter pursue.

Join me tomorrow, back on the couch with Bryce asking to come home.



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One Response to “Nana Holds From Coffee Hour@Chicklit Power”

  1. Jan Bachelor says:

    I am really touched by the choice you made to edify and to not inflict hurt. Boy, that is a really great principle to live by. I took my oath in college for my dental training and the similarity in it is that very thing. Seek to do no harm, that can be verbally or physically, emotional and much more. It’s in Gods Word also many times. I must tread carefully and use wisdom so I do not hurt others. That is extremely important to me in my walk with Christ.