Why do bad things happen to good people? From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and the “If I could have coffee with God . . .” series

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and I’m glad you joined us today for some answers to a very tough question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” In the midst of trying to answer this tough question in our “If I could have coffee with God . . .” series, I’ve been given the opportunity to have some real hands-on experience with the incredible truth that bad things do happen to good people. Grab your coffee and let’s get back to the most recent experience I’ve had with a girl I’ve known for years who has really had her share of bad things happening.

So to rewind just a bit, this friend who has had a lot of bad stuff happen to her came to a book signing so she could share with me her perspective of life and why she felt God was not someone she wanted to be in relationship with because He never stopped all this bad stuff. She gave me two-and-a-half pages of all that bad stuff and I’m going to share most of it with you — she said I could — but first let me get back to the collision of a very important realization.

We’ve both just experienced a sort of paradigm, if you will, a sudden realization of a truth that has been so deeply buried for so many years, and it began so very long ago for her, but this paradigm of pursuing the wrong things all her life instead of her God-given purpose rendered us both speechless for seconds. I had no idea that she was artistically creative and talented! 🙂

My eyes welled up and hers got real wide with life and excitement that chased the dull depressive almost lifeless expression away. All she could say was, “huh.” It was so obvious that she was stumped in a good way. 🙂

Well, the realization and acceptance of this possibly being true – the fact that she could have some talent and someone could/would appreciate her for it — opened her heart and mind just a crack and we began to explore the possibilities with this artistic creation of glass angels. She told me about one lady requesting purple and yellow and I immediately thought of the Lakers but kept quiet as she shared more about the reason she started making them and what she was doing to personalize them.

She is part of a grief support group and they are having some sort of balloon festival July 16th in Long Beach and I believe that’s where she will be showing them for the first time, offering them to all who have lost a loved one so they could put the name of their loved one on there and maybe the date of loss. Many people have already given her color requests and other requests to make the angel theirs. 🙂 I was really listening with my heart and yet my mind was going crazy about this angel with the Lakers’ colors.

When she had finally finished explaining the different facets of this project, and her motive, which wasn’t about making money, I had to really pull the reigns in on my mouth so I wouldn’t sound like I was capitalizing on her loss that was still so very raw and definitely one of the reasons she was so angry with/at God.

I began to ask her for the approximate dimensions of the angel, the other colors she had used by request of members from the support group and then when it was the right time, I suggested maybe she should think about putting them up on a website with the Lakers’ colors. Something tells me that even the Lakers could use some angels watching over them, huh? 🙂

There were moments of such animated life in her eyes that came and went that afternoon as we finished up our lunch and then began to make plans for her to help plan a book tour up North. I was bubbling over with excitement for her and about her and yet I was so humbled at being allowed to experience this visual example of one coming from hopelessness and entering a state of hopefulness, from depressed and oppressed to reaching out to accept a God-given talent wrapped up with a purpose. I could see it in her face, and I watched it as she walked! It was transforming, truly! 🙂

I don’t know why I was so surprised at how He had intervened in this way; I just was. He never ceases to squeeze my heart with surprise, hope, joy, encouragement and excitement when I least expect it! 🙂 That’s what is so amazing about being in a relationship with our Father. Only He has the power to take our focus off the bad and learn to see the good. Only He has the power to take the wrong and often bad choices of ours and others and use them to add beautiful color to our life.

Don’t get me wrong; I don’t even think that her problems are over, not by a long shot, especially after reading through her two-and-a-half-page summary of her reasons she doesn’t really believe God exists, and if He does, He has to be mean, but one thing I do know, He’s got something up His sleeve and I can’t wait to see it come down and unfold and transform her heart and mind. Oh, that I would remain His vessel and judge not lest I be judged! Hey, isn’t that our monthly WOW? 🙂

So come back on Wednesday and I’ll begin to share her list with you and how I think He would answer.

Make it a great day,


P.S. Today’s Blog Talk Radio and we’re almost done dissecting all the personality temperaments. Tune in with us at 1:00 Pacific time and/or just click on the “listen to my weekly Podcast” link and you’ll land right in our “Destination? Joyful! Unpacking the junk one piece at a time!” show . . . 🙂


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