Are you heavy laden? (part 2) 2010 WOW Rewind From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome back to the second part of this particular WOW from Matthew 11:28-29. Grab your coffee and let’s get back to that question I left you with.

So when your tired husband comes home, how do you greet him? Are you weary and heavy laden from your day? I know I was so much better at this in the beginning of the marriage than I am now and that’s because there’s much more to distract me away from my first ministry, which is my home and my husband. (And if you have children, they are second to your husband!) I’m smiling as I recall the first weeks of our marriage when I used to literally be waiting for George so I could greet him with hugs and kisses. I was truly excited to see him and interested in how his day had gone. Then life continued to happen and I began the juggling game of life, love, housecleaning, cooking, and so we both embarked down the road of taking each other for granted. Had I not paid attention to my convictions and stopped to re-route my direction and my love, we would have been divorced by now.

Men really aren’t as complicated as we make them out to be. They just want someone to love and to be loved. Much of the time, we’ve become so entangled in our own agendas that we don’t understand how our guy communicates love to us and before you know it we’re lashing out at them for not being what we need them to be. What follows is an overwhelming sense of being heavy laden that takes over, and the crazy cycle continues as we place all these expectations upon ourselves from ourselves and project unrealistic expectations on our husbands. What’s really crazy is if we were to ask our husbands what they expect from us as wives, I know that their list and our list would not line up with each other. That’s not to say you’re going to agree on all of the expectations, but there is a balance to be reached so we can avoid becoming heavy laden.

See, Jesus knew and knows to this day that we get all caught up with false expectations heaped upon us by others as well as ourselves, and that’s why He speaks these words to us today: “Come to me all you who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke (teachings) upon you and learn from me (not the world) for I Am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls (because I don’t expect perfection; I just long for your devotion).”

I’ve been in Dr. M’s position before, too many times to count, and even as I blog this for you, I am convicted of the need to show my husband more love and respect for he is truly my first ministry. When I am ministering correctly, the ministry becomes my gift, my blessing. When I am earnestly seeking to please Him, I am free from the self-inflicted yoke of trying to please others and/or myself. When I am seeking to please Him, I inevitably don’t have to work so hard at being a wife because I am in alignment.

It’s kind of like a chiropractic adjustment. When what is out is put back into alignment, everything else functions better. I can always tell when I need an adjustment. Maybe it’s my low back that is giving me trouble and if I ignore it for too long, pretty soon my knee’s bothering me and then my foot’s going numb. So it is with being in alignment with Him and His yoke (word); when we are in alignment with Him, everything else just seems to work out and we avoid becoming heavy laden, sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Are you in need of an adjustment today? Commit this scripture to memory. And would you please join me in praying for all the marriages that are hanging precariously over troubled waters?



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