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The Night after The Bachelorette, and After the Final Rose-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks so much for coming back to “The night after The Bachelorette.” Grab your coffee and come on in for a scene by scene rewind of the FINAL night! 🙂

We’re off to Vomo Island in Fiji, the perfect place to “write the last chapter” in her love story says Ashley as she also affirms that she’s not going to have any regrets. She also looks into the camera and says she feels so confident about her feelings for these two guys. Hmmm, how can you really love two people at the same time?

Her reunion with her family was sweet. It’s obvious that she’s very close with all of them. As she describes J.P. and Ben to her family, it’s actually kind of honest, in a weird sort of way. With one she has passion and with the other she admits to being more compatible. Well, I wish I could buzz on over there like a fly and whisper in her ear that compatibility can turn into passion, but if a relationship’s foundation is merely passion, then it will become a dying ember. Her family steps right up to the plate and says that they are going to be able to figure it out for her, that they will be able to figure it out by watching her interact with each of them. RED FLAG!

J.P. is up to the plate first. Let’s see if he hits a homerun or strikes out. Ashley actually looks pretty much herself as he begins to talk with her family about his and Ashley’s first date. They all seem to get along pretty well, a lot of laughter and then when she’s with her mom and her sister, her sister says she’s too much for him.

Ashley began to cry at her sister’s honesty, a bit brutal. Mom encourages her to follow her heart, and Ashley says her heart’s a little broken at her sister’s opinion. Wow, she’s crying hard and Mom’s trying to smooth the waters that have become big waves of confusion for Ashley. Her sister goes off with J.P. and admits right away her skepticism of their relationship and then just says she doesn’t see it, meaning the two of them. J.P. defends his feelings and their reflection and tells her that he wants them to all know he’s 100 percent in love with her and that there’s an undeniable chemistry between them.

Wow, this girl’s realism is a splash of cold water for J.P. especially when he asks her if he proposes to Ashley, would she not be happy for them? She shook her head and said she wouldn’t be. It really rocked J.P. and stirred his anger and his temper and he makes a valid point that she made such a harsh judgment after 15 minutes. As he shared this with Ashley, Ashley admits her confusion and says I just need to figure it out, and J.P. responds with these words: “I thought you had it figured out.” Ouch. 🙂 This day did not end well at all. The biggest thing that is up in the air at this point about Ashley and J.P. is a big question mark.

Ben meets the family and Ashley stands back wrapped in anxiety and fear. Now, they’re on the couch and talking. The ice breaks and Ashley breaks out in goofy mode and we get to see something that we’ve never seen before. Ashley and Ben break out in doggie talk. It was hysterical. So this is part of what they did behind closed doors and off camera? It’s so funny, refreshingly funny. 🙂 The whole family is laughing and I’m seeing a connection there that is definitely different from that with J.P.

Oh, it’s tough older sister, about to ask some tough questions and Ben tells her that it makes perfect sense to him to be with Ashley; that they are like best friends, that her joy when they are together gives him the confidence he needs to propose to her. He also told her sister that nothing has been forced with them and he’s in it for the long haul and the cherry on the top of that day was that the family likes him, including big sister! 🙂

Oh, so I didn’t realize they get a day together after meeting the family. Ben and Ashley are going up, up and away in a helicopter to explore the island of Fiji. I’ve really got to put this place on my bucket list!

First they take a mud bath in the hot/healing springs. Ben comments on their “playful friend” side and Ashley is definitely having a good time with the mud. Before they see each other for their evening date, he shares with us that he doesn’t say the “l” word very often. They toast to everything going well tonight and to everything being well received.” The silence is a bit heavy and Ashley picks up on it right away. Ben’s vulnerability is so stinking sweet and honest as he tells Ashley that he’s in love with her and the walls came down. Funny thing, each of them said the same thing about kissing the other all their life, that they would be lucky to be able to and that they definitely could.

Now it’s time with J.P. and they talk about their relationship and J.P. says, “When it comes to you, I’m flexible on everything.” He shares with her that he’s madly in love with her and that he’s been dying to tell her, and in his words, completely vulnerable and completely exposed. And Ashley is feeling so good with where things are at. She even says she gets lost in J.P. Hello, that’s a big red light! But I think she’s gonna blow right through it. Oh, somebody stop her and give her a ticket, please! 🙂

Now, this is just an Evinda-ism, but J.P.’s emotions are driven by the need to win this contest, seriously. I don’t think it’s really real, but that’s just my opinion!

So Ben is picking out an engagement ring much like the other bachelors! Well, maybe it’s a bit different. When J.P. shows up to pick out a ring and the jeweler tells him, what are you going to do if she says no, his face falls and he gets a twinge of anger. It almost looks as though he doesn’t pick out a ring, but he does.

Ashley looks amazing, stunning and beautiful as she goes to stand in position and waits to break Ben’s heart; that’s right, it’s Ben she says no to but Ben is convinced that she’s going to say yes. This really inhales vigorously. Why in the heck does she kiss him if she’s gonna say no. Ashley starts to cry when Ben comments on the fact that she doesn’t have a ring on her finger and he plunges forward with his profession of love and then gets down on his knee and proposes. All he can say is “Wow, I didn’t see this one coming.” Ben is crushed, absolutely crushed and Ashley runs after him. Her words sound so meaningless, like they added coal to his fire of anger and humility at being completely vulnerable. Oh, this is senseless but one thing Ben said that struck me was, “Ashley went safe today.” I actually think she’s taking a huge risk that is not going to have good payoff results.

J.P. is taken by her beauty. He takes her hands as he rewinds their journey, and admits that he’s taking a leap of faith, that he smiles because of her. He bends down and proposes and she says yes. Now that we’ve all witnessed it, we should bathe them in prayer before they are sent out to the sharks, aka, the media.

After the final rose begins with hearing from Ben after reliving his refused proposal and he admitted to it being tough to watch. The reason it was so tough, as Chris says, is Ben’s love for her was genuine. Ben told us that the hardest part was after professing his love to Ashley and proposing and her rejecting that proposal, getting back up was the toughest thing to do. He does make the comment about putting himself out there and becoming vulnerable, he wouldn’t have done that without Ashley and her opening him up to that ability to feel love again.

When Chris asked Ben how the days were that followed, he said they were tough and what made it worse was he had to go to his best friend’s wedding on his way back home. “Where are you now; are you over this relationship?”

“Well, I think about Ashley, obviously. She impacted my life greatly and I’m a more complete person because of this whole journey.” Wow, what a guy!

Ben really wants to know when she made that decision and he finally gets to ask her!

OMG, who is that walking out? Why do they do it; go and get all changed up and looking completely different? Her hair is completely dark, now or is that the original Ashley that we saw with Brad? I’m so confused.

So Ben’s asking her when did she make that decision and she said that there was really a point in time – she wasn’t specific as to which point – that she thought he was the one she would end up with, but at the end, she had to follow her heart. Oh, how Hollywood has done such an injustice by painting love all with passion!

Ben, you definitely left with dignity and you still have it, as you sit there and admit that he’s glad that he went through it and that this journey opened him up.

Chris gives Ben a chance for any final questions and Ben asks if there was anything he could have done different, and Ashley convinces him that there wasn’t because he was perfect the way that he is.

J.P.’s and Ashley’s first public appearance and when Chris asks, “What do you love about this woman,” J.P. answers, “When I’m with her, nothing else matters.” And then Chris asks Ashley the same thing, “We’re just a team always on each other’s side. It’s not

just about him, but about us and what we have together.”

Now they’re addressing the tabloids and how mean they are. If I can say one thing that you will remember from this blog, don’t believe everything that you read in those magazines! They have their own agenda and it doesn’t include the feelings or considerations of the people involved.

He got the girl and the plans are Ashley is a month away from finishing school and then she will be moving to New York and they will be getting a place together and try and experience a “normal” life together before committing to a wedding date and marriage! Well, that’s getting started off on the wrong foot and is definitely not the old “normal” and moral, but hey, that’s Hollywood!

Thanks for sticking with us through this series.




The Night after the Bachelorette-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by for “The Night after the Bachelorette.” Grab your coffee and come on in. We’re about to go on the hometown dates with Ashley and the four guys, Ben, Constantine, Ames and JP, and it appears we have some concerned families.

It’s already the first commercial break and the only thing she’s said that is worth writing is that when you meet the families, it puts things on a whole different level. Okay, let’s get to the first hometown date with Constantine, who is a restaurant owner.

Oh, I can’t wait to meet his family. He took her to his restaurant and she was really impressed with the love all his staff showed him. He taught her how to make a pizza while his staff peeked around the corner totally checking her out. He’s actually very funny and Ashley picked up that he’s totally real and more comfortable in his own space. Constantine just said something rather profound: “That’s like the beauty of love is that you can only be open and ready for it. You can’t do anything to make it happen or force it to happen.” OMG, you should have seen his chefs and waiters and waitresses all looking through the glass window out onto the patio, straining their necks, a couple of them obviously on tippy-toes to see if he was going to kiss her and he didn’t disappoint them! 🙂

Now it’s time to meet his family. How cute; they have balloons hanging up with a “Welcome Home Constantine” sign. His sister, mother and father were so excited to see him. Dad recognizes his happiness right away. The love in the family is beautiful music and it inspires Ashley.

Mom initiated a one-on-one talk with Ashley and I love her insight. She wants her son to find the love of his life, but she feels that they need more time because of course, everything is wonderful when you’re jetted away to these awesome places and beautiful beaches, and life is wonderful, but real life is different! Can I get an AMEN!!! I like her! Now she wants to ask a mama question, which was legitimate. She wanted to know if this did go in that direction, would Ashley relocate to where they all were, and Ashley said without a doubt, she wouldn’t have a problem doing that, especially if it’s what he wants.

Now it’s time for father and son who reiterates that it takes time, but he gives his blessing if he feels that Ashley’s the one. Dad said to use his mom and him as an example. He talked about ups and downs, that it’s not going to be perfect, but in the beginning, it should be.

Ashley was obviously very comfortable and had no idea about the planned surprise just as they were going to get ready to leave the doorbell rings and his entire family shows up, grandmas, aunts, uncles, sister, cousins and then they did this dance. I could so get on with his family. “All the pieces of the puzzle are really put together for me and Constantine,” Ashley said. She really didn’t want to go. And Constantine’s dad, well he wished for them to have love forever.

Ahhh, Ames is so excited to see her and his family includes a sister and her husband, another sister and a brother and his wife and his nephews and nieces. Mom can see that Ashley has really caught Ames attention, and his sister Serena could see the spark but wonders if Ashley has it. So, she gets right to it and tells Ashley clearly he has feelings for you. It’s serious now. You’re meeting his family now, his nieces and nephews and I’m just curious, what are your feelings for Ames?

Ashley admits that their relationship has moved a lot slower than the others but she’s choosing him over the relationships that have moved faster because she sees so many good things in him.

Serena asks another tough question: are you comfortable when you guys are together? Is it easy or do you feel like you have to work toward things or do you guys just — does it come naturally?

She feels something for him; he’s different in a good way and she’s just not ready to stop learning about him.

His sister says, “He’s like an onion. You keep peeling layers and you’re going to find out more.” She then confirms that he’s the most loyal, honest person you’ll ever know and he’s a romantic. His sister says that Ames has brought other girlfriends home before but this time it’s different. “He’s smitten with you.”

All Ashley could say is she wants to know more.

When Mom and Ames talk, he really comes out with how much he admires how she’s handled things. We definitely have a different opinion on that one.

Okay, now back with his sister Serena. Ashley asked her to tell her a bit about Ames’s father who died when Ames was ten and then his step-dad passed away, too. So that gave Ashley another piece to this puzzle. Serena wasn’t convinced that Ashley’s spark was/is as bright as Ames. Oh, now Ashley is telling Ames’ mom that she thinks they’re both similar and yet, when Ames has said that, she looked a bit bemused. Bummer, she just admitted to still missing the spark, that romance and passion. Why is it we feel that has to come first?

Oops, his sister gave Ames a heads up about kicking up the romance, so he did just that and took her to this beautiful garden and under his favorite tree with a picnic lunch.

Oooh, I like what Ames says: You can have romantic through the ordinary. There’s so much more magic in the ordinary; life doesn’t have to be like fireworks. And then she reached over and he leaned in and kissed her. Then he took her on a horse-drawn carriage with some beautiful horses, the perfect ending to their hometown date, a storybook romance.

Now it’s time for Ben, Sonoma, California. This is the winemaker and he says it’s his turn to surprise her all day. They start at the winery, and he shows her many more facets to him and they share a sweet moment before they begin their picnic in the rain. Ben tells Ashley that he’s only brought one woman home to meet his mother, and he assures her that it’s a big deal to him. Ashley asked Ben to describe his dad: “A gentle giant, super happy with life, soft-spoken, didn’t say a lot but super, super happy about life. He would have liked you.” Ben admits that this process has put him in touch with a different side of himself, the emotional side and he likes it. I hope he’s able to say that no matter what happens. Ben makes it very clear that “my mom and sister have to like you, or it’s not going to work for me.” If things don’t go well, then it may be the end for me.” Wow, his vineyard is beautiful.

Ben’s sister breaks the ice by talking about Ben’s hair, and then admitted to being the one that signed him up for the Bachelorette. Julia says Ashley is sweet, but she’s skeptical so she brings Ben in the kitchen and they talk, heart to heart. Ben admits to being into it despite it being scary and exciting all at the same time. When his sister asked if he saw himself engaged at the end of this, she smiled when he responded that if things keep progressing the way that they are, he most definitely sees himself engaged. Wow, I sure hope he don’t get a broken heart. 🙂 🙁  🙂

Ben told his mom that he hasn’t said he loves her but he likes her a lot. He’s really grown through this process, and he talks about his dad that passed away, and mom tells him that she thinks dad would be proud of him. Ahh, Ben has tears in his eyes. What a sensitive heart. With tears running down his face, he admits to missing his dad. There really is a little boy inside each man.

Okay, so now it’s JP’s hometown and this is who I think she feels the most for. We’re in Long Island and JP’s so excited to have her all to himself and he didn’t sleep a wink all night. It’s raining so JP has a special plan for them and Ashley narrates that she doesn’t care if she walks with JP down the street for three hours. She just wants to be with him. That says a lot! They’re going roller skating and didn’t even get their skates on before kissing. She is the most genuine with him. She’s going to meet his mother, father, his brother Roy and his brother’s girlfriend. JP admits to taking only four girls home to meet his family. He also admits that he’s willing to risk getting hurt for a chance at love. Interesting concept, huh?

The welcome from the family was genuine and loving. Mom is concerned and has so many questions to ask. She is honest about not wanting to see her son’s heart hurt like it was hurt before. When she asked if he was in love, he couldn’t quite say it, but he is confident that she doesn’t share what they share with the other guys. Mom is still guarded and tells Ashley as much as she relives a season of broken-heartedness for JP and says she’s nervous because she sees love in JP’s eyes when he looks at her. Mom really puts her on the spot and Ashley doesn’t flinch at all, but in fact encouraged it. She fell in love with JP’s family and talking to Chris, she has no regrets. I think maybe Constantine and JP and Ben get to stay, but let’s see.

Ben is the first name she calls to give a rose to. JP is second. Boy, they’re milking it. Just say Constantine’s name and get it over with. Whew, she just did. Poor Ames, he’s completely shocked, but still he’s smiling. He breaks down a little bit, telling her how impressed he is with her, and that it was beautiful and even more poetic than he expected and that he will remember every second of it. What a truly nice, nice guy, another broken heart. Somebody please tell me what is the purpose in all of this?

Have a great day,



The Night after The Bachelorette-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by for “The Night after the Bachelorette.” Grab your coffee and come on in.

I apologize for not giving you a heads up last week, but apparently there was a rerun because my DVR didn’t record. When I logged on to their site, whew, was I surprised at the comments that were left, lots of ticked off people who are getting sick and tired of the show choosing a prior contestant to be on the show as the reigning bachelor or bachelorette. Anyway, let’s get on with the show. We’re off to Taiwan.

Wow, I had no idea Taiwan was so beautiful, the landscape, the waters, the architecture, and the birds, breathtaking. So Chris explains there’s three one-on-ones and no rose to interfere with the ambience and ease the pressure, and then one group date. We’re down to six guys and hometown dates are around the corner. Constantine is the first one up for the first one-on-one. Ashley admits that their relationship is moving slower than all the others. I think that’s a good thing, but of course, with the end of the show nearing, the rush is on.

They take a train ride to a little village, holding hands, checking out the physical thermometer. They are attending the lantern festival. Oh, how cute, he’s carrying her on his back. Now they’re putting their love wish into the lantern, one on each side and they need to draw their wish on the lantern. Constantine drew 2011 on, with family, a ring, things he called traditions. He said he comes from a family of traditions. At dinner, he tells her about his family and I like what he says: one step at a time, one day at a time, one date at a time. He wants to make sure she will fit into his world. I really like his authenticity and his logic is so right on: you can’t force love. How cute, they lifted their lantern into the night sky and then they kissed. And what are the chances that hundreds of lanterns would go up at the same time? How romantic! 🙁

It’s Ben and Ashley now. They’re off to explore the park on a moped. They actually look really comfortable together, kind of like they’re boyfriend and girlfriend already. Wow, the scenery is beautiful. I’m thinking Taiwan may have to go on my bucket list. 🙂

Dinner is at Silk’s Place and of course, the ambience is beautiful. Ben talks about how important his mom’s and sister’s opinions are to him and he explains that he’d like to see their relationship go to the next level and he says “You’ve got me in this teetering point of having stronger feelings than just liking you, so after the hometown date, I’d like it to progress.” He says, “I don’t throw the ‘love’ bomb around lightly.” As I watch her expression as he’s pouring out his innermost feelings, it doesn’t feel like she’s feeling the same, but maybe I’m wrong. She does say she thinks she’s falling for him. Uh-oh, they spent the night together and the testosterone is definitely rising and spilling out. The other guys are ticked and they are now getting ready for the group date.

Oh, this ought to be fun. They’re going to a wedding photo shoot, a big tradition in Taiwan. Ames and Lucas get stuck in ridiculous outfits, but J.P. walked out in a tuxedo. Hmmm, did Ashley plan it that way? The first photo shoot was a traditional shoot with Lucas, who was anything but happy in his monkey suit he got stuck wearing. Oh, J.P. did not like to watch him kissing her; that’s for sure! Now it is J.P.’s turn who “lucked out with this date, getting the most traditional outfit, picture background,” as Ashley says, but he choked. He gets to explain himself later, and he shares just how much this whole process is tearing him up and “making him crazy.” It worked; he got the group date rose to reassure him because she’s certain that good things will come from it and after all, she can certainly empathize with his pain having gone through the same feelings with Brad.

Now it’s her time with Ryan, and her biggest discovery she wants to make today is whether they have a connection. He has gotten on all the guys’ last nerves, but he’s really a nice guy. They went to temple and made a wish to the “matchmaking” gods. Are they serious? He’s a bit giddy, and she’s definitely uncomfortable as she narrates for the camera that she’s not ready to meet his family.

The date goes on and suddenly the air is heavy as she admits that there’s no romance there. The look on his face was actually heart-breaking. He was so sad and devastated as she admitted to “just not feeling it.” Wow, that was hard to watch, the awkwardness made even more uncomfortable as she admits she was not 100 percent confident she made the right decision. He’s really torn up about it, too. So much anticipation going into the date blown up in just a few minutes, I can’t help but feel happy for him that he didn’t wind up with her. He wants to love unconditionally, and honestly, I don’t know that she’s ready to do that and be all that he deserves. But all that said, they better not put him up for the next bachelor! 🙂

Now it’s time for the rose ceremony, but first it’s time for a chat with Chris where she admits that she knows what she wants to do and she doesn’t want a cocktail party. So I’ll put it out there and say Ames is going home. Let’s get to the rose ceremony.

The first rose goes to Constantine. Don’t forget, J.P. already has one. Okay. Next is Ben. I knew it! 🙂 Next I’m gonna say is Lucas . . . and the final rose goes to – I was wrong, it went to Ames and Lucas is going home. Wow. I didn’t see that coming.

So tonight we have a little extra piece to the show, an interview with Emily, who if you haven’t heard, broke up with Brad. This is a bachelor update.

Apparently the tabloids have played a pretty big part in their break-up and hurtful rumors continue to today and as much as they tried to keep their relationship private, it wasn’t and their silence has seemed to hurt them more than help them so that’s why it’s time to speak out for the first time publicly.

Emily is having a hard time not crying. After a little bit of conversation, Chris asks where their relationship is right now and she admits that they are no longer engaged and she feels bad for taking so long to let everyone know it’s over. When Chris asked her if she was still in love with Brad, she said she will always be in love with him. Not a day will go by that she won’t regret how things have turned out and wished that things were different. Then Chris asked her the million dollar question, because everyone wants to know, not because anyone has a right to know, what happened after the final rose? What went wrong?

When the show stopped airing, she was going to get her and her daughter an apartment in Austin close to Brad, and little red flags kept coming up in the relationship and she demanded honesty from herself and she realized that her wanting to be married, wanted to have more children and wanted all of that with him and maybe that overshadowed the actual reality of the relationship. She didn’t doubt that they loved each other; she just doubted that he would still want to be with her. She went on to say that they were both used to being single for a long time and as a single mom, she had more to take into consideration. She also admitted that maybe they didn’t have what it takes to last forever because she wants it to be forever. She doesn’t know where things took a turn or how they took a turn. She admits to being so disappointed and heartbroken because she had such high expectations.

Emily wants the rumors to stop and the story to stop because as she says, anybody who has been through a breakup doesn’t like telling the story over and over and then she went on to tell Chris, “I trust you to tell the story and not sell it.”

Chris then asked her to explain the paparazzi drama. She says that nothing on the show or off prepared her for what she endured after the final rose. The paparazzi would camp out on her sidewalk all night, follow her to the grocery store, shopping, and popping out of bushes and taking pictures of her and little Rickie, her daughter. Chris asked her if she thought that her and Brad would have made it had it not been for the tabloids and the vicious story-thirsty paparazzi and she said she didn’t know but she felt it would have been much easier. Her and Brad do talk often and will remain in touch. She obviously still loves him and he her, but as she admits, it takes more than that.

Join me tomorrow for my blog entitled, “Change your mind and your life will follow.”




The Bachelorete, the night after-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, June 28th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome back to “The Bachelorette the Night After.” So I was reading the People magazine just yesterday afternoon, and there’s Ashley on the cover, talking about what a fool she feels having watched the first few episodes. She even admits that the first time she cried because her heart was broken, but then when she got to actually sit and watch the episode where Bentley bailed, the producers did not edit out any of the other degrading comments that he made about her, so having to watch that all over again brought the tears gushing to the forefront. I knew she was gonna feel pretty stupid when she saw the episodes uncut, but I have to say that I feel so bad for her having to soak in all that humiliation on top of a broken heart! 🙁

She really fell for that guy, and why, I haven’t a clue. It’s like this force takes over that is hard to resist and I think that there’s something in her that likes the bad boy and she was even warned about him. And the even sadder part, Bentley is still laughing about how he duped everyone! How sad is that? Talk about drama, I think this would be termed epic!

Anyway, we better get to the show, but let me tell you, from what I read from the interview that People Magazine did with her just recently, I’m thinking she winds up with no one, but that may be a little premature supposition on my part. But we’ll see. . . Grab your coffee and come on in. Let’s get comfy; this could be a little long! 🙂

Hong Kong is absolutely amazing, with one of the most beautiful skylines around, breathtaking, but Ashley is more caught up in the dot, dot, dot closing statement from Bentley. She’s got it bad. Oh, Chris is knocking on her suite. “My greatest fear for you is at the end of this, one of these guys is down on one knee proposing to you and all you’re thinking is hmmmm, what if, so . . . He then goes on to inform her that Bentley is in the hotel that she’s at. “Shut up!” There’s dead silence. Chris encourages her to not let Bentley be vague, to get the closure she needs so she can give the other guys a fair chance. It’s so crazy how we can be so attracted to poison, something literally absolutely positively wrong for us, but still we fall . . .

She’s walking to his room and when he opens the door and pulls him to her, their first few words are a bit awkward. He has the nerve to tell her to tell him everything that he missed. She begins to admit how hard it was when he left, and he has the nerve to say it was hard for him too. Lie; it’s a lie! So he’s turning his dot-dot-dot statement into a period. So I guess she got her closure, and she looks pretty confident, but is she?

She’s getting ready to see the guys and she looks less haunted by Bentley. The first date card arrives. “Lucas, let’s find our good fortune on the streets of Hong Kong.” They have a casual time walking through the city and at dinner Lucas admits that there are three things he would like to have from his date with her before the night ends: love to dance with her, love that first kiss and he would love that rose. In the meantime, date card comes and Ryan, Mickey, Constantine, Aames, Blake and Ben, “Let’s get our hearts racing. Love, Ashley.

Let’s get back on the boat with Lucas and Ashley Well, he gets one of the three, and that’s the rose. Oh, and he got a little kiss and then he really kissed her! Oh, how cute; he is dancing with her, and she’s liking it and feel protected with him.

It’s the group date and they are going to be dragon boat racing! Onstantine and Ben are the blue team. Blake and Ryan are the red team. Aames and Mickey are the black team. Each team had to go out in unfamiliar territory and recruit some boaters. Talk about a challenge. Ryan played it smart and their team got a translator. Ben and Constatine went after couples but were having a hard time finding willing participants. Aames and Mickey got a team of six or seven to help them. Score! Ryan and Blake got four guys to help so they were moving forward. Ben and Constatine put on red robes and wound up getting a whole team. And they’re off. . . Blake and Ryan won the race and in the midst of them savoring their win, someone from the group of people that were recruited engaged to their love. Wow, and they didn’t do it Bachelor or Bachelorette style! 🙂

Ames got her in the elevator and took her up to the 48th floor, and the ride up was definitely not wasted! Let’s just say that their lips were in hiding just about the entire ride.

We find out that J.P. gets the next one-on-one date while the group date is happening, which seems to be kissing the time away and ends with Ryan getting the rose.

Ashley is really excited to be on this date with J.P. Over dinner, she asked him when the last time that he cried was, he said his last breakup. Of course she dad to inquire if he had really moved on and he was honest with her so she felt she needed to be honest with him and she was hoping it didn’t backfire. She didn’t tell the other guys but for chemistry sake, she felt she could tell J.P. whose mouth dropped when she told him that she had seen Bentley two days ago there in Hong Kong, but then he was like pretty cool about it.

She told him that she feels so strongly about him and wanted to tell him about the whole journey. So they actually just overcame what could have been a big elephant in their relationship and J.P. admits to being more emotionally attached than he’s ever been and completely blown away by how he’s feeling. He’s crazy about her. I think J.P. is very genuine and believes he feels all that he is feeling. Oh, that he would remember all that he’s feeling when the tides of trials and troubles come up upon their ocean floor. Hmmm, maybe J.P. is the one. Maybe she does choose someone.

So she’s feeling like a new woman, confident and captivating. She has convinced herself that because J.P. took the news of Bentley being there so well, she owed it to the rest of the guys to let them know how she had fallen for him, about the dot, dot, dot, and that she felt all this time that she didn’t get the closure but since he did come to Hong Kong, she did receive her closure. She made an emotional deposit into all their egos but it did backfire.

The guys really put her through the fire with some very tough but necessary questions. They remind her that they are putting a lot on the line and here she has been thinking about him this whole time. She stopped herself mid sentence when she realized how upset they all were with her and she got up and excused herself. The guys discussed it among themselves, and a couple of them, the more they talked, the more ticked off they got. Oh, my, but the testosterone laced with pride is rising and it almost looks as though a few of them just might get up and walk out! Actually, Mickey did leave. What a bummer.

Ashley admits she doesn’t know how to navigate through this right now. She doesn’t know how to make everyone happy right now, but, hey, who of us does, right?

It’s time for the rose ceremony, and Ryan, Ben and J.P. already have a rose. Ben gets the first one, and the next one goes to Constantine. The final rose goes to – it better be Ames – yes! It’s Ames! Blake is asked to say his good-byes.

Next week, we’re going to Asia and of course, the previews are definitely making it look very confusing and like she’s not gonna have anyone there at end! 🙁

Join me tomorrow for a much more positive coffee hour. 🙂




The Bachelorette, The morning after- From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by for our “The Bachelorette the morning after,” blog about what happened, scene by scene on this what I’m going to term a meaningful series, but not for its message, more for all its ugly truths that I can pull out of the fantasy of it all. Grab your coffee and come on in for some girl talk. I’m sure you’ve seen some of the articles on our seemingly senseless bachelorette, Ashley.

I was in the grocery store on Saturday when I saw on the cover of US Magazine a picture of Ashley and the words, “Why she took him back.” I was standing quite a ways from it but as soon as I read those words with my new permanent fixtures that are on my face, aka, glasses – ugh — I walked up to the rack to pick it up as if picking it up would make it not true. I knew it! There to the left of her big, big picture – and she is cute but . . . never mind, I won’t be catty! – There is Bentley smiling like a little boy who just won some sort of huge friend contest or something. “Unbelievable,” I muttered. My honey was even disgusted and is now determined that the show is rigged. Can anyone really be that crazy to self-inflict such inevitable heartache? I didn’t even read the article. I actually have a personal preference for the PEOPLE Magazine because I have found things that they have printed to be true versus the other gossip magazines. And that’s not meant to offend anyone. I just like to keep it real and therefore, I need to read what’s real. So let’s go see how much of these previews they showed last week and the articles that are on the newsstands are true.

They’re off from Phuket to one of the most romantic cities in Thailand, Chang Mai. Ben F. gets the first date with Ashley in Chang Mai. They went to the big marketplace, tried on hats, she tried on clothes, they stopped at a painter’s booth and they painted umbrellas. Ben has a great sense of humor and is really interested in what interests her. Their dinner was set upon an amazing flower-engraved setting that flowed with romance. Ben shared with Ashley about his dad passing and his heart being guarded since then, sort of like an emotional zombie. He has since come to terms with it all and says he’s ready to move forward because he’s less selfish and is taking down the emotional walls.

Meanwhile back at the resort, it’s time to tell who’s going on the group date: Constantine, Ames, Nick, Blake, Lucas, Ryan, JP and Mickey, which leaves Ben C and for the 2 on 1 date.

Back to dinner with Ashley and Ben, she asked him what his agenda would be for the relationship and he said my agenda would be about spoiling her and focusing on her, and for the first time in a long time – she means since Bentley – she’s feeling hopeful. She’s definitely better suited for Ben than Bentley!

So this date is a perfect example for some Thai culture, some training in the Moi Thai boxing, hands, fists, legs, anything goes. They were all pretty animated to show off their stuff until they were actually taken to a live ring and told they were going to actually now put into reality what they had practiced. First up to fight is Blake versus Lucas, and the winner is. . . Blake! Now it’s J.P. and Mickey.

This is so stupid. What in the world was she thinking? Now she’s admitting that it wasn’t sucha good idea because she’ realizes as these guys are pummeling each other that she likes them more than she thought. So, J.P. the little guy beat Mickey. Now it’s Ames and Ryan, and Ryan has been a bit cocky since learning that they were going to be doing this. Oh, No, Ames is sort of seeing stars and is holding up his hands so Ryan won that one. Ames has never been in a fight in his life. Poor guy’s got glassy eyes! He got his bell rung.

Then it’s Nick and Constantine, but as they’re fighting, Ames isn’t looking so good and Ashley goes off to get him help and Constantine wins his match but Ames is taken away in an ambulance. Again, stupid idea, Ashley! 🙁 He does return hours later in the midst of their cocktail party after dinner, but he’s suffered a mild concussion and is not able to hold an intelligent conversation. He’s actually a bit goofy and disoriented.

Blake finally gets a moment with Ashley and I love what he said: He says that relationships that are hot out of the gate don’t last; love is a marathon, not a sprint! Then Lucas gets a turn and he gets to show her how to golf and all she can say is “I was pretty turned on.” But when Lucas asks her what her type is and she says she doesn’t have a type, he tells her he knows her type is like Bentley! You should have seen the look on her face!

So she’s made her decision about who gets the rose and Blake not only gets the rose but some reassurance too. By the way, he’s the dentist! 🙂

Now we’re on the two-on-one with William and Ben C. Wow, what a beautiful view through the river waters surrounded by wild life, waterfalls, greenery everywhere and then they get off at a little park-like setting and there are three elephants carrying three guys. William is actually annoying and definitely insecure. He spends his one-on-one time talking about Ben and throwing him under the bus.

OMG, and I thought women were the only ones who stirred the pot with gossip, which is garbage that comes out of one’s mouth and is usually not true! And, yes, she’s falling for it. I mean, hey, she fell for Bentley, right?  She actually ended the date halfway through based on the garbage that came out of his mouth. What a bummer, a huge misconception! I think she needs some communication classes, but then again, if she weren’t so insecure, I don’t think she would have handled it like that. She made it all about her. To put it in Ben’s words, “What a terrible, terrible way for things to end, such a shame.” But hey, the one-on-one date turned into a no-one date! She sent the pot stirrer packing, too! What goes around comes around!

Now that’s the smartest thing she’s done all night. I’m thinking this is the guy that roasted her really bad, right? But then here comes more insecurities and now she’s thinking maybe this way to find a husband isn’t going to work after all!  Hmmm 🙂

Okay, so we’ve wasted two whole segments talking about Bentley and her needing closure. So they’re building it all up really well so I’m sure we’re gonna see him soon, if not this show, then the next one! Wow, is that ever going to be a big piece of humble pie when she looks at the rewind of the episodes! I wouldn’t want to be her.

Finally, the rose ceremony, and Constantine gets the first one. Next up is Lucas. The other guys are looking a bit nervous. J.P. is the next one to get a rose. Ames gets a rose. He should! J Mickey gets the second to the last rose. Here comes Chris to tell us it’s the final rose. That’s so funny to me. J As if we don’t know that already! Anyway, it’s between Ryan and Nick, and Ryan gets it.

They are off to Hong Kong next week and guess who will be joining us . . . Yep, Bentley! I wonder how much he was paid?

Join me tomorrow for more on the “If I could have coffee with God . . .” series and our tough question is: Why do bad things happen to good people.

Have an amazing day


The Bachelorette-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, June 14th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by. It’s time for The Bachelorette rewind. Grab your coffee and come on in.

I know I had said a week before this season was to start that I would not be blogging about the Bachelorette, but I’ve had a change of heart, not because I like the show, though I’ve still been watching it, but because my girlfriend and I were on Google checking something out about this website and we found a magazine writer/blogger who had the Coffee Hour Bachelor/Bachelorette blog listed as her second favorite, so for that reason, and for the sake of a positive message, I’ve re-thought my decision and changed my mind. 🙂 Hey, what can I say? 🙂

Seriously, though, the first three episodes I was really glad I hadn’t blogged. I mean, this Bentley guy, come on! Are you kidding me? Ashley is going to feel like such the fool when she watches those episodes. She fell for the guy, hook, line and sinker even after being warned that he was only doing the show to promote himself, and he was just along for the ride.

The only real thing about this show is the people, and even that is a big question at times! 🙂 The good thing about the last episode is Bentley bailed so that charade is over, thank goodness. But he was such a total jerk right before he went in to tell her he was leaving. He actually said he was going to hurt her but he hoped his hair looked okay! I couldn’t believe it and the way Ashley reacted told how much she had already invested in just three weeks. She was so devastated and I was devastated that she was so devastated, so let’s see how she’s doing tonight! 🙂

Tonight we’re in Thailand, and you should have seen these men let their little boy joy come exploding to the surface when they found out where they were going. They were so excited to go to Phuket, Thailand, but Ashley’s still got her heart and thoughts on Bentley.

Oh, thank goodness, here’s the date card and it’s for Constantine. “Let’s ‘sea’ Phuket together.” Ashley’s plan to charter a small boat and go to a private beach was rained away, but he was a real trooper and suggested they go into town and do some shopping. Hmmm, a vendor had some interesting advice to offer when asked what is the key to a good marriage: “Love is not about winning! Forgive, forget and forgive again and again.”

While they are out on their date, the next date card comes and it’s a group date for: Ben F., J.P., Blake, Nick, West, Lucas, William and Ryan “Let’s make the world a better place.”Their date continues and so does the chemistry on a low dose. I will say, though, that Constantine seems to be the real deal. And as Ashley said herself, “Hopeless Ashley is now hopeful.” Her heart is still aching over Bentley, but she is determined to move forward with the guys on the group date. The date turned out to be a humanitarian type of date in painting, organizing an orphanage that was destroyed in the Tsunami a few years ago. Ryan is getting on the guys last nerves. Wow, hard to believe they can be as caddy as women! Sorry, but we really can be catty, don’t you thing?

The children from the orphanage came and showed their appreciation to the guys with such joyful animation and genuine appreciation. Then it was play time with them. If you’ve ever played with orphans from other cultures who are less fortunate than most kids their age in our own country, you definitely leave different than when you came. So Ben gets the first kiss from the group date, and he looked like he was enjoying it but I don’t know about her! 🙂

Wow, you should see these guys second guess themselves, and allow their insecurities to come out of their mouths. And I thought only girls did that!  Hmmm, 🙂 J.P. and Ashley are talking on the beach in the rain and now she’s kissing him like she really wants to kiss him and she even said kissing him is magical.

She’s very much into the external picture, and though I know we all like to look at the wrapping on the package, she doesn’t seem to be as interested to discover what’s on the inside!

Another date card has arrived. Who gets it? “Ames, it’s more romantic in the rain.”

Wow, right before Ashley was going to give the impression rose on the group date, Ryan came running over and said I just want to steal her for a few minutes, and that really ticked the rest of the guys off. So, the one who gets the rose for the group date is . . . Congratulations, Ben F.

Ames is an interesting guy. He’s been to Thailand after finishing school to climb the mountains. And then he was there last year just to go to cooking school. Wow, the west of Thailand is beautiful, mysterious, hovered over by the mystical sky, and floating clouds above the huge rocks in the water.

Wow, they kayacked into this beautiful cave and caverns and Ames analogized navigating the turns in the cave to a relationship. You never know what’s around the corner. It was truly breathtaking, peaceful, majestic beauty. Their dinner date was laced with some meaningful conversation and Ashley did give Ames the rose, along with the gift of Ames discovering his funny side. 🙂 I love the fact that he didn’t feel the need to kiss her and/or make out with her. He was really digging her inner beauty!

Finally, the rose ceremony! 🙂 Wow, she was supposed to send two guys home but she admitted to honing in on just Bentley and not giving the others even a second thought all these weeks, so she wants more opportunities to have more time with them so she doesn’t send the wrong guy home. So does that mean this show gets extended for another week? I’m not sure how I feel about that. Okay, here we go . . .

Lucas let out a big whoop when his name was called. Ryan smiled his beautiful and happy smile as he accepted his rose. The guy she enjoyed kissing the most, J.P., gladly accepts his rose. Nick, who we didn’t see much of or hear from this week accepted his rose gratefully. 🙂 Mickey, dark hair and blue-eyed mysterious guy accepted his rose. Blake confidently accepted his rose, making sure it was pinned on right as he walked back. William, the one who said way too much at the roast last week, was very happy to get his rose. I THINK West is going home but let’s see . . . Ben C. stepped forward and relief showed all over his face as he whispered something in her ear. Bye-bye, West. Bummer, he was such a nice guy who she felt wasn’t ready for another relationship after losing his wife when she passed away just a couple of years ago. I actually think it was her own insecurities projected on to the poor willing guy. I pray he finds the real thing in the weeks and months to come.

So join us next week for more memories in Thailand, and please join me tomorrow for the “If I could have coffee with God series,” where we are asking the tough question, why do bad things happen to good people?

Have a beautiful day,



The Bachelor, 2011 – From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, January 11th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power, and welcome to “The Bachelor” series. The show actually started last week, so I’ll cover last week’s today, and be sure and come back tomorrow for this week’s show. Grab your coffee and come on in.

This year’s bachelor is Brad Womack, who was the bachelor in Season 7 and the one who chose no one. That’s right, he didn’t propose to either Deonna or Jenny, but left without a woman. Was that ever a Bachelor first!

Watching the finale, Brad said he felt like a jerk, admitting he was scared to commit. So what’s he been doing over the last three years? He said he did some deep soul-searching, and looked within through extensive counseling because he knew that there was something wrong with him, not the girls he left behind. He also confessed to having panic attacks afterwards, and the meanness that was expressed in all the forms of media afterward added flames to the already burning fire of self-doubt, panic and the ever burning questions searing on his heart after having been given the opportunity of a lifetime – that’s his opinion, not mine – to find love.

And what has the “new and improved” Brad discovered? He’s realized that he has extensive trust issues, a phobia to commitment and confesses being wounded by an absent father. He said he’s tired of being closed-off to others for the sake of avoiding being hurt. Next the camera goes to the faces of his brothers who both have families. They were such cheerleaders for Brad, saying he was definitely ready to fall in love, that he’s changed and ready to take that leap of faith with the right one.

So of course the previews show all the girls giving him a ration of pooh, questioning if he was really in it for the right reasons this time, if he was really ready to commit, on and on and on. People can be so cruel.

Whew, they’ve just introduced all of the girls, and I gotta tell you, there are some pretty unstable crazy girls here to find love, but then again, that’s just first impression. Chantal seems pretty real. Oh, Brad, watch out for Raichal, the “manscaper.” Yikes! Meghan thinks a man is an accessory. Then there’s Madison, the vampire. OMG, is this a joke to get even with Brad? Emily is very real, knows what it’s like to be in love. That could be because she lost her fiancé who died in a plane crash in October of 2004. It wasn’t until a couple of weeks after his death that she discovered that she would have something from him forever, a child. She’s a beautiful and sweet single mom, and she’s a children’s hospital event planner.

Oh, brother, here comes the big confrontation! I’m telling you, some people get off too much on revenge. When Chris asked, “What’s changed,” Brad says it took some pretty intensive therapy, years of therapy. You should have seen the look on Brad’s face when Chris told him the girls he rejected were getting ready to come on stage to get some answers. “You’ve got to be kidding me.” The fear in his eyes explained many of the emotions his words didn’t say as Deonna and Jenny walked onto the stage.

When Chris asks the girls if they believe in the “new and improved Brad,” Deonna is the first to admit that she has a concern that two women won’t be left with broken hearts. Jenny said that she felt that all the bachelorettes will have their walls up. Jenny wished him luck and said she was hopeful for him; Deonna said she remains skeptical but wished for him what she and Jenny found, love, wonderful love.

First woman out of the limo, and what does Brad get, a slap in the face from every woman in America from her to him! It gets better, though, I mean the girls aren’t really that mean, but out of all 30, I’m thinking there are maybe 7 or 8 hopefuls. But then again, that’s based on first impressions, which aren’t always reliable. But hey, some things never change; these girls are pretty catty from the get-go. Wow!

So the first impression rose goes to Ashley S., and I have to say I think he made a good choice. I can’t believe the emotion from a couple of the girls who didn’t get roses at the end of the first episode, and I can’t believe he kept vampire girl.

I better let you go. Have an amazing day and surround yourself in His love for that is the kind of love to last a lifetime!


Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power – The Bachelorette, The Final Rose

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome to The Bachelorette Finale. Grab your coffee and let’s get to it. There’s mucho drama tonight. We’re off to Bora Bora.

So she recaps the highlights of the two relationships and she admits to having deep feelings for each of them, and off to meet her family they go. Roberto is up first. Here’s an interesting thought that one of my friends just brought up: How nerve-racking it must be for her family, especially because they seem so authentic and not Hollywood! Oops, rewind.

Ali’s talking to her dad saying that Roberto brings her to a peaceful place and he appreciates her social side. “He’s so romantic and he’s – he’s great.” Ali’s mom asked Roberto if he had any questions for her about Ali and he said as her potential husband, what could I do to always make her happy?” How sweet… Ali’s mom spoke Roberto’s language: “I believe that your heart is pure.” I agree with you, Mom. Now it’s Dad’s turn to talk with him. After several years, the tension is a bit thick between them, but Dad does give Roberto his blessing. Confusing, these deep feelings explored via Hollywood, forced to be validated within the sequence of the allotted showtime for the sensation of it all. They sure make it looks like there’s a bigger than not possibility of a future with the two of them. Everything is based on feelings. Puke!

Now it’s Chris’s turn. Here’s another interesting tidbit that another friend just pointed out. When Ali’s with Roberto, she dresses all sexy; when she’s with Chris, she’s more conservative, but she’s herself. Okay, everybody here is piping up with their opinions about Chris. “He’s more sentimental” – this is from a 17-year-old. And then, “He’s more wholesome.” And Steph says, “He really is cute!” Her family loved the fact that he’s from Massachusetts. There were several connections. Both moms – Chris’s has passed – in nursing. His dad used to be a teacher, and her sister and dad are teachers, and Chris himself used to teach math. It’s so funny how they completely separate the two guys as if it didn’t happen. There was a little sad and uncomfortable moment when they asked Chris to tell them about his mom. Chris admitted to trying to keep their relationship as close to a normal progression as possible and admits that their relationship has gone slower than the others, but let’s not forget, it’s slow because it’s on a two-month schedule. I’ll tell you what; her family was definitely more comfortable with and about Chris.

Poor Chris; he looked so scared when Ali’s dad asked him to go outside and talk, but he was rewarded with a blessing if Chris were to ask for her hand in marriage. Overall, Chris fit in better with her family. Could it be that he’s an Easterner?

So the time with Chris ends with her saying, “It’s not about who’s a great guy, because they’re both great guys. It’s about who’s right for me.” So she goes to her family and her dad starts rallying for Roberto. Then her sister speaks and I love what her sister said: “There’s good and bad to falling madly and deeply in love and having the fireworks and romance. Sometimes it doesn’t stay that way so to have someone who is taking things more slowly, I don’t discount it.” She is so right on. Mom understands Chris very well, especially since Chris’s loss of his mom. They all gave Ali plenty to think about, but it doesn’t look like she’s anywhere near a decision.

Now it’s time for some one-on-one time with each of the guys. My goodness I have got to go see the water in Tahiti myself. It’s absolutely beautiful, even with the stingrays floating all around them. Ali says a comment that sticks out like the stingrays in the water all around them: “My fear of trusting someone with my heart, that’s going to be the real fear to overcome,” and, “he’s always been too good to be true.” So they pull up to their private beach with a picnic waiting. Like I’ve said before, how could you not fall in love with it all? And then as if he’s reading my thoughts, Roberto says, “Even in a place like this, if you’re not here with somebody special, then it’s not the same.” She’s definitely more twitter-pated with Roberto than she is with Chris, but I’m thinking she’s thinking it’s too good to be true, but yet she says she feels safe and at the end of the time with him she looks in the camera and says, “I love him. I really do.”

Now it’s time with Chris, and Ali comes in and right away, you can tell something’s going to happen that’s not expected. She admits to being in love with someone else, and she doesn’t want to put him through the whole date day and then the rose ceremony when she already knew in her heart that just because they get along and have so many connections doesn’t mean it’s right to be together. I admire her honesty, and I empathize with her genuine tears. Oh, I pray that Chris’s heart heals. What an amazing guy he is. He tells her, “Good luck tomorrow, and go find out if he loves you.” Well, I sure didn’t see that coming and I don’t mind saying I was wrong. I still feel he was the better choice for her. The way that she did it took courage and it was the more gracious way to let him go. She knows she sent an amazing guy home. He has got to be the classiest bachelor I’ve ever seen on any season. This scene ends with a rainbow, and it hasn’t even rained. Chris knows it was a message for him.

So the assumption is she’s gonna choose Roberto. Does she or does her confusion override it all? And then Roberto’s getting ready for the big event, not knowing that Chris has already been sent home and as he’s putting on his suit jacket, and let me tell you he looked adorable, he says, “I don’t know if I can do this. I only want to propose one time in my life. I have to do what feels right for me.” Okay, is that all for the sake of the theatrics of the show?

Ali is stunning as she steps down on the stairs to go take her place. They’re playing their thoughts and Ali’s loudest thought that is so true says: “I don’t think it’s possible to love someone until you give your whole heart to them.” No, it’s not commercial again? Man, do they know how to soak this for every second!

Ali couldn’t keep her secret for long. Roberto spoke of his love for her and she let him know right away that he was the only one there, and when she got to finally say those words she kept inside for so long: “I love you so much.” And then, she asks him if he would accept the final rose, but she asks him in Spanish.

The connection has been there since the beginning. Here’s to you Roberto and Ali. I hear you’re already making wedding plans.

Have an awesome day and since this blog was so long, I’ll blog tomorrow about the show, “After the Final Rose.”


Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power – “The Bachelorette; The Guys Tell All”

Tuesday, July 27th, 2010

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome back to “The Bachelorette.” Actually, this is “The Men Tell All,” and I honestly debated about blogging about it, but since Ali is going to actually confront a couple of them, I thought it would be a bit interesting. Hopefully it won’t be disappointing. Grab your coffee and come on in.

So I just turned it on and found out that Justin, the three-timing gigolo won’t be on the show. Surprise! Surprise! Surprise! So Chris just announced that this season has been one of the most watched seasons ever in Bachelor/Bachelorette history. After showing a taped interview with Ali where they recapped some of the most awkward and memorable moments of the show and it ends with Ali saying she followed her instincts to the very last day and she’s so glad she did.

Some of the moments not on television, Roberto tries to cork a bottle of champagne and it hits her right smack in the face! Then the camera shifts to a goofy and totally verbose rambling toast from Frank’s dad where Ali couldn’t help but bust out in laughter.

Chris asks the guys a pretty interesting question: “Did you have any idea what you were getting yourself into that first night?” The general response was, it was intense, interesting, and they had no idea what to expect. I have to tell you, the guys talk as much smack about each other as the girls do, and maybe even more. But unlike women, they don’t get all emotional. I mean there was a long time of bantering and whatnot, total disagreeing with each other, but they were able to get it off their chests and then laugh about it. But that’s the blue in guys, and we women are pink! I just think we could use a little more blue when it comes to our communication skills.

Of course they regurgitated the Rated R exit and there’s no need to go into that whole drama. I don’t ever want to use this platform to demean another human being; however, he sure tempts me, but I’m not going there. There was one thing all the other guys had in common besides their feelings for Ali, and that was their strong dislike for this guy. So that being said, let’s move on. The surprise guest revealed how Rated R’s schemes crumbled around him and the rest of the bachelors, and her story is pretty rock solid. It’s amazing how the truth always gets revealed when we least suspect it.

So now they bring Ali out and she just confessed that she came into this thinking that everything was going to be rainbows and butterflies, so great and so wonderful, and she had no idea it was going to be as difficult as it was, especially since she got so hurt along the way. When asked, “What was the toughest part of the show,” she said, saying good-bye the way she had to was really tough. It didn’t mean they weren’t great guys, she admitted, just not for her.

They had some pretty good pranks that weren’t on the show but were taped. They were definitely funny. One of them showed Ali saying something and then stopping mid sentence and screaming. The next thing the camera shows is a mouse. Well, that sent my dog to crazy in just a second. My little Baraka watches T.V., and when animals and rodents show up on the screen, she goes ballistic 🙂

They just rewound the journey with Chris and Ali and then Roberto and Ali. I’ve said it before; I’ll say it again, I think it’s Chris! We only have one more week to wait before we find out….

Make it a great day


Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power -The Bachelorette

Tuesday, July 13th, 2010

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome back to the drama of “The Bachelorette.” Grab your coffee or whatever you’re having and let’s get started. You know I love to do a blow-by-blow synopsis for you. Oh, by the way, we’re having a Bachelorette finale party at my house so let me know if you’d like to come!

It’s hometown date week, pretty serious stuff. First stop, Roberto’s hometown of Florida. He’s very much into family and their approval. How cute, they’re running to each other. She’s into him. Wow, what a beautiful college campus and he kept saying, “This is awesome; this is awesome.” And he has a surprise for her. He used to play collegiate and pro baseball, so he takes her to the field and the dugout and gives her a baseball jersey with her name and his number, 19! And then he comes running out in his old uniform and yes, he looked…. Let’s just say he was definitely a 10! Smart move, Roberto, she was totally having a good time. She’s actually not a bad player, either. As she said the date had all the elements that she wants in life: being outdoors in the sun, staying active and having fun. And then he gives her a baseball card of him from her hometown… Hmmm, there’s definitely something about that that we should pay attention to.

So they were talking about his family, and I definitely saw a hint of vulnerable insecurity when she admitted she didn’t know if they were going to like her. She’s really nervous about being accepted – that’s the greatest need in all of us. Wow, I didn’t realize Florida’s so pretty at night. I don’t remember it being that glamorous. His mom looks amazing,  more like his sister. Oh, how his dad really loves him. He asked Ali some pretty pointed questions. Roberto says, “The most important thing is that I have that feeling.” He asked his mom in Spanish for her blessing and she gave it. And dad says, “Follow your heart and you have my blessings.” The night ended with a salsa dance!

Next was Chris’s hometown, Cape Cod, Massachusetts. Wow, that’s a beautiful place that I have to go visit now. Okay, so my little Baraka is on her bum barking at Chris’s dog. It’s so funny. She’s like talking puppy language. Okay, back to Ali & Chris. Now, Chris is the one who lost his mom, so this is sure to be emotional. Wow, his home is what Stephanie terms a typical Cape Cod home. It’s really beautiful. Oh, the picture of his mom, he looks just like her. I’ve always liked Chris and as he talks with her and shares how he smiles just when he says her name, I am definitely thinking he’s a strong possibility for something amazing with Ali, but so is Roberto. As far as the other two, NOT! Wow, he has such a great relationship with his dad, who gave Ali a little kiss on the cheek. One thing I’ll say for Ali, is she’s so natural and not all made up. Wow, Chris’s relationship with all of his family members is strong, affectionate, close and genuine! Then they noticed that Ali was wearing the bracelet that Chris gave her, and Chris’s sister showed her the one she wears, which used to be her mom’s and then his dad recited what was engraved on that bracelet: “Love is the only reality,” and then he added, “And that’s our family’s slogan.” Chris’s dad then told Ali how he and Chris’s mom met. And Chris was mom’s firstborn, and there’s no relationship like that of firstborn. Dad cried when they left. Their relationship definitely took a giant leap forward. Stephanie, my Bachelorette buddy, doesn’t believe she’s going to pick him. From watching the previews, I’m thinking she will, and Frank’s needy self is gone!

Greenbay, Wisconsin, Kirk’s hometown, Wow, he was so excited to see her. Their first stop is his dad’s house. His dad is a bit strange, and even Kirk was nervous at the thought of their interacting. Dad’s first question to Ali, “Ali, would you like to go see my basement?” Is that creepy or what? You should of seen the look on Ali’s face. OMG, there’s all these dead carcasses on the wall. He does taxidermy work. “How many would you say you’ve done?” Ali asked ever so cautiously. “Oh, thousands,” he boasts. Not a smart answer! You are definitely not helping your son, dude. I love Ali’s response: “I love animals, but I love them when they’re alive.” And then he opens a huge freezer with frozen animals, “like popsicles, and other treats.” The guy was nice enough, “warm, kind and caring guy,” as Ali states. His dad actually has some wisdom and admits that he got it from the mistakes he made in his first marriage: “Before you give your heart away, go through the logics. Are you compatible? Is she going to be doing things with you versus you doing your thing and she does her thing?” Then off to meet his mom, his grandmother, and his sister. Kirk was so happy to see how the women in his life interacted with Ali and Ali with them. His sister asked him, “So what do you like about Ali? “She’s magnetic.” And here’s another interesting comment: “I’m ready; I haven’t hidden anything from her.” Then his mom shared with Ali about his sickness and the Armstrong bracelets that they both wore and how she fought for him during the sickness. And the really cool sign, the day he took off for California to start this show, her bracelet had snapped off her wrist. It was a sign that he had found his wings and was headed toward a new beginning. Now she didn’t say that, but I said that. He’s got such a good relationship with his mom. It reminds me of my own relationship with my son.

Now we’re in Chicago, Illinois with Frank. This is the guy who’s given up everything to pursue his passion, including his own place. He lives with his parents. She looks amazing. They’re seeing the city of Chicago via a boat and it’s really pretty. So they start talking serious and his neediness really comes out through his honesty. He analyzes way too much and he’s coming across a bit too insecure. “I can’t figure you out,” she tells him. Well, let me tell you my thoughts, Ali. I think he’s a bit of a time bomb and definitely having second thoughts exploding inside and threatening to outwardly erupt. The family meeting was so welcoming and genuinely warm. He and his family laugh a lot, but suddenly things got serious when Mom took her outside. Boy, Ali didn’t hesitate when Mom asked her is Frank is possibly the right person for her. Her answer was a very quick yes. Dang it, I’m thinking she’s gonna keep this guy around. They have had some serious chemistry right from the beginning, but I don’t think everything has come out just yet. His sister put it in a good way: He seems so happy and yet, he’s making himself so vulnerable that he gets scared. You know, I don’t fault Frank for his analyzing it all; perhaps if there was more of that going on, there would be more success with the couples who always seem to be breaking up. There’s still a little something nudging me about him and I can’t put my finger on it.

So we’re back in L.A. and it’s time for the rose ceremony. So we’re listening to her recap her experiences with the guys and their families, and after Ali says about Chris, I’ve taken the biggest steps forward with Chris, but I’m just wondering if it was too late,” and Steph voices her agreement and says, “He’s going.” Overall, she feels scared, and definitely not ready to send one of them home. I’m thinking that Stephanie’s right, and she’s going to send Chris home. She’s crying big time. I just remembered a couple of other previews they showed last week, and they showed major drama with Frank, so that means he’s staying, cuz the preview hasn’t happened. She’s crying as she tells the guys that her decision has nothing to do with their families…

Roberto gets the first rose. Chris gets the second one. Holy tolido, you should of seen Stephanie’s mouth drop. OMG, it’s between Kirk and Frank, so Kirk is the one going. Wow! Kirk looks mad. Hey, Chris Harrison never came out to tell us it was the last rose! Now, that’s a first. Another first, Kirk has always been the one to end a relationship; it’s never been the other way around… He’s strong and will land back up on his feet again, and may his heart be restored soon.

Next week, they are going to Tahiti, Cheers…