Posts Tagged ‘Destination?Joyful!’

Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday, February 21st, 2018

My hands shook as if I had palsy of some kind; my fingers going everywhere except to the
designated keys to form the words that were being dictated for all of us to take down,
verbatim, with 95.5% accuracy. “Why, Lord, why can’t I pass this test?”
Welcome to Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Wednesday’s Word with Trench Classes
United.

It took me two tries to pass my California Court Reporting test and receive my license and I am
so, so glad I didn’t give up. Have you ever been so exasperated, so frustrated you could just
scream…or throw something or just give up?
I recently enrolled in an online class, Sociology 101, for several reasons: 1, I needed my CEU
credits for my national court reporting license but I have no interest in court reporting
education, per say, and 2, I need 12 units to finish my A.S. degree and 3, I truly want to learn
more about how to function more effectively in the ministry He has called me to and immersed
me in. Honestly, I thought it would be easy, maybe a little challenging, but definitely doable
considering my passion to understand people and how their past influences their present and
derails them from a fabulous future.
I was WRONG! This class is infuriating and exhilarating all at the same time! I have this sort of
love/hate relationship with it. I am extremely challenged, and it is moving at a pace that is
putting my brain on supersonic steroids! I am having a hard time keeping up. And when it’s test
time, it takes me back to my court reporting days where suddenly everything I’ve absorbed up
to that point seems to have fled to hiding places that my brain can’t find!
This season of learning is no different; my first test score was 37 out of 50! I was devastated,
beyond frustrated and even infuriated. I really wanted to quit. My brain couldn’t comprehend
getting such a low score. After cooling off for a bit, I called my professor sharing my frustration
and complaining about the allotted 60 minutes to answer 50 questions. I mean think about it,
that’s some pressure there!
He gave me a great study tip and encouraged me to stay in the journey. He let me know he
believed I was invested and he was not going to let me fail…or quit. He spoke to me as if I were
a friend.
What do we do when we are beyond frustrated, exasperated, and ready to just give up,
whether it is from a class that is challenging our minds, or an illness that is draining us of
energy, or a relationship that is testing our ability to love?
Treat your struggle like a friend who has something to teach you!
Proverbs 17:17 tells us that a friend loves at all times. Hmmm, think about it: when we need a
friend, don’t we go to someone we can trust because we know they will be honest with us? We
listen, maybe not always agreeing, but knowing that friend has our best interest at heart.
Perhaps your current struggle was sent to be your friend, handpicked from our loving Father to
continue to do His will in you that He may work through you.

Thoughtfully,

Kim-Evinda

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Tuesday, February 20th, 2018


4.0 used to be the “perfect” GPA when I was growing up. Now the educational system has
come up with ways to exceed “perfect”!
Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench Truth with
Trench Classes United.
There is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with working for that A, reaching for that GPA that
opens the doors to chosen opportunities, higher learning and otherwise. The problem with so
much emphasis on a letter grade is it can easily become too much emphasis for identity.
I am learning, albeit the hard way, that I am not to define myself, nor be defined by a letter
grade!
Oh, to be okay with not getting an A!
No matter what challenge we are facing, we need to remind ourselves of who we are in Christ.
Just like we are not the car we drive, or the purse we buy, or the clothes we wear, we are not
defined by anything but who we are in Him, with Him, and by Him.
Learning…and unlearning

Kim-Evinda

Monday’s Mantra

Monday, February 19th, 2018

I feel like a slacker when I watch the Olympics. The physical exertion and laser
focus of an Olympic athlete boggles my mind. I worked toward the dream of
becoming an Olympic athlete when I was a competitive diver in high school and
college. As I watched the experienced divers flawlessly execute dives from the 10-
meter platform, I would think, “Wow, if I could do that!”
Welcome to Coffee Hour at Chicklit Power with Megan’s Monday Mantra and
Trench Classes United.
In Mark 9:23 Jesus says, “If you can?” “Everything is possible to the one who
believes.”
Had I evoked this scripture back in my diving days, things might have turned out
differently, but that is unlikely. The above scripture does not mean if you believe
you will win a gold medal, you will. It means through your faith in Jesus Christ,
you are empowered to accomplish things you never dreamed possible–IF you can
believe all things are possible through Him.
The amount of God’s grace in our lives is measured by the amount of our faith in
Him. We receive the same amount of peace, hope, wisdom, and courage as we
have faith. We are able to receive only as much as we are able to believe.
The Toyota Corporation introduced its new slogan during the 2018 Winter
Olympics. I find the Olympics the perfect venue for its release. Their new slogan
is: “Start Your Impossible”
If you can believe all things are possible through Jesus Christ, impossible becomes
possible.
Your comments are always most welcome.

Lovingly in Christ,

Megan

Faith Filled Friday

Friday, February 16th, 2018

Happy Friday, Beloveds, come grab a warm cup of coffee and sit with me. Thank you in advance
for taking time and joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Faith Filled Friday with
Trench Classes United.
16  “This is what the LORD says: Because you have obeyed me and have not withheld even your
son, your only son, I swear by my own name that  17  I will certainly bless you. Your descendants
will conquer the cities of their enemies. Genesis 22:16-17 (NLT)
Abraham obeyed God when He told him to sacrifice his only son. Oh the
spiritual battle that Abraham must have faced, as you and I can’t even
imagine such a thing. Abraham had great faith that God would provide
another way. Abraham must have recalled God’s promise to him that he
would have decedents more than the sand on the shore.
(Continued) 17  I will multiply your descendants [a] beyond number, like the stars in the sky and
the sand on the seashore.
God wants us completely submitted to Him with nothing else in the way, so
He will ask us to give up things and/or bring us through storms or droughts.
As we struggle through our spiritual battle between the flesh and the Spirit,
we can cling to the promises God has left us, just as he left Abraham.  We
can choose to cling to these promises and trust and know God will bring us
through it or replace what He has asked us to give up with something far
greater than we could ever imagine.
What storm or drought are you facing?
Remember what he brings us to He will certainly bring us through. As he
tests us and allows the season of a storm or drought, He uses this time to
redefine, refine and restore us so we come out even stronger than before.
And what is our response? Give Jesus all the praise and glory for He once
again has proven and provided His great strength and love to you, to me,
that we may long and hunger for Him even more.
Oh what a good, good Abba….
Oh Jesus, we thank you for the droughts and the storms. Thank you for
never leaving or forsaking us.

Love,

Ashley

Thursday’s Trench Truth

Thursday, February 15th, 2018

Why did you do that? Because he did this. But why did you say that? Because he said this. And
so the crazy cycle continues and soon we don’t even remember where the original conflict
began.

Welcome to Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Thursday’s Trench Truth with Trench Classes
United.
If we are honest with ourselves, it’s really hard to hear the truth about ourselves, let alone
swallow it and allow it to change us. But why is it so hard to accept, digest and live by? Perhaps
it’s the way it’s served.
I was having this very meaningful conversation with someone the other day and I felt like there
was an invitation to get in their car so to speak, and all of a sudden, after explaining what I was
seeing in their life, they kicked me out with these words: “How did this conversation suddenly
shift to everything I’m doing wrong?”
I was stunned at the sudden boot which felt like a bucket of cold water on my face. I held up my
arms as if to surrender, my eyes reeling from the quick ejection and just said, “I’m so sorry; that
wasn’t my intent, it truly wasn’t.”
Silence followed for what felt like an eternity while we both sat there.
“Maybe it’s just really hard to hear the truth, Kim,” they said, pulling the wall of sad silence
down and off to the side.
I sat there.
“It’s like you’re in my head.”
As quick as the wall had shot up dividing us each on our own side, it came down with this
confession. But it would have stayed if I had reacted to their sudden outburst, or it could have
been thicker if I had kept pounding more truth into them.
I’m so grateful that God wastes nothing and from this conversation I was able to learn that a
little truth goes a long way.
Father, help me to know when to begin…and end.

Truthfully,

Evinda

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Tuesday, February 13th, 2018

“Please don’t tell her I said that;” “Between you, me and the fencepost…” “I would never tell
them this, but…” What one word comes to your mind when you see these statements?
Thanks so much for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench Truth
with Trench Classes United.
What comes to my mind is the word gossip…and truth be told, we all participate in it in one
form or another, though it may not be intentional. I don’t have enough fingers and toes to
count the number of times I’ve been in a conversation listening and before I knew it I was
swept up in the current and joined in with my two cents.
How do we avoid this slippery slope? The best way to not be swept away is as soon as we feel
this current coming toward us we need to move out of the way!
But how, I can hear you ask?
By excusing ourselves, leaving the conversation because even just sitting there listening is a
form of participation!
Oh, Coffee Hour Friend, trust me when I say I understand how difficult this can be, especially
when I justify it in the name of venting! Let’s dare to be bold by refusing to compromise our
own integrity for the sake of feeling part of something we really shouldn’t be part of, trying to
fit in, feel accepted…at whose cost?
If we can’t say what we’re saying about someone to that someone, then we shouldn’t say it
to anyone!

Truthfully,

Evinda

Monday’s Mantra

Monday, February 12th, 2018


When my spouse forgives me and accepts me, I learn to receive God’s forgiveness and
acceptance. In that moment my spouse is modeling God to me. Revealing God’s mercy, my
spouse is helping me see, with my own eyes, a very real spiritual reality.

(Adapted from Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas)
Welcome to Coffee Hour at Chicklit Power with Megan’s Monday Mantra and Trench Classes
United.
Today is my husband’s and my 18-year anniversary. I look back at the person I was eighteen
years ago and I cringe a little … okay, I cringe a lot.  I think God has a sense of humor. He
seems to enjoy gifting us with a spouse who is vastly different from us. In many ways, my
husband and I are complete opposites. The concept of “opposites attract” does not feel so
attractive when you and your spouse are grinding through your differences. But I have learned
to be grateful for them. Through these differences, the Lord sculpted our marriage into the
intimate and trusting relationship we share today. Other than God Himself, I love my husband
more than anything else in my life.
The marriage relationship was the first human institution established by God. (Genesis 2:24)
Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people. A covenant is a formal
arrangement between two parties that binds them together. Each party has an obligation to
the other rooted in mutual loyalty and commitment. The Hebrew word for mirror is “to reflect
God.” Chiseling off our selfish human nature, He shapes us into “other-centered” spouses
whose marriages reflect a clear picture of Christ’s love.
In Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas writes, “We need to learn to fall forward. That is, when we
are frustrated or angry, instead of pulling back, we must still pursue our partner under God’s
mercy and grace.” He goes on to suggest this helpful prayer:
“Lord, how can I love my spouse today like he/she has never been loved before or ever will
be.”
I’m pretty sure this is a prayer God is ready to answer.
Your comments are always most welcome.

Lovingly in Christ,

Megan

Thursday’s Trench Truth

Thursday, February 8th, 2018

Love…The dictionary defines it as an intense feeling of deep affection, but is that
really love?
Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Thursday’s Trench
Truth with Trench Classes United. Come on in for a moment of truth.
The longer I’m married, the more I disagree with the common definitions of love.
In fact, the longer I’m married, the more grit I need to stay married, because love
is not a feeling, it’s a choice, therefore, love is a different kind of noun, and it is
also a verb for love is a choice in action!
Too often we check out when we fall out of love!
Perhaps we need to redefine love as…not a feeling or emotion, but a choice in
action that emanates horizontally when nurtured vertically!
I say that it is impossible to love as He calls us to love without first loving Him who
loves us!

Truthfully,

Evinda

Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday, February 7th, 2018

(Acts 9:17-19)

Imagine with me for just a moment; allow your thoughts to go to that person
you’ve been hearing about who has been doing all kinds of wrong…in or out of
the church. Do you have that person in mind?
Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Wednesday’s Word
with Trench Classes United. Grab your coffee and your Strand of Faith and let’s go
tie some knots in our faith by applying a small portion of scripture to us.
So do you still have this person in mind? Keep them there as I recount the story of
someone we don’t really hear about; he may even be a one-mention wonder in
the Word, Ananias. In the book of Acts, which recounts the events that formed
the first Christian church, we hear about this crazy man Saul who has been doing
all sorts of bad things to the early Christians, including killing them. In this portion
of scripture, Ananias was instructed by the Holy Spirit to go and lay hands on this
guy! So not only was he told to go near him, but he was instructed to lay hands on
him!
Have you ever been asked to do something that you were deathly afraid of doing?
Well imagine that feeling times 10! But Ananias didn’t allow his fears to override
his obedience. He went to Saul, did and said exactly as he had been inspired to
do, and the Word tells us that “ 18 immediately there fell from his eyes something
like scales, and he received his sight at once, and he arose and was baptized.”
Now we could literally stay in this verse feasting for a couple of hours, but let me
just share with you three very powerful truths God spoke to my heart this
morning as I was hanging out with Him in His love letters to me and you:
What if…I were asked to go and speak to and lay hands upon this one person who
I feel has been tripping up the Christians around me? Would I allow my “righteous
anger” to rip me off of the blessings that follow obedience?
And then in His loving and gentle way He reminded me of the calling He’s given
me, to help remove the scales from people’s eyes through the organization He
began almost 8 years ago!

But He didn’t stop there, because God is a God to all, but He reminded me that in
some way specific to each one of us, we were all called to be an Ananias, to live a
life that helps remove the scales from the eyes of those who have not seen, with
their lives and hearts, the love of Jesus Christ!
Oh, Coffee Hour Friend, as we go about our day today, may we all be like Ananias,
obedient to the whispers of our faith, living a life that helps remove the scales
from the eyes of those who have yet to accept the reality of the necessity of the
love and grace of Jesus!

Love,

Evinda

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Tuesday, February 6th, 2018

As the top five reasons were revealed on the screen, I couldn’t help but nod my
head in agreement. Unfortunately, I wasn’t thinking of my own weaknesses, per
se, rather I was agreeing with the cyclone towards destruction!

Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench
Truth with Trench Classes United. Isn’t it so much easier to point out the
weaknesses of others and not own our own?
Our pastor was talking about having a gritty marriage — grit is passion to
persevere. He began with a powerful truth that often we just want things to work
but we don’t want to do the work!
Then he listed the top five reasons why they fail and again I nodded in agreement:
1. Poor communication
2. Finances
3. Abuse
4. No longer “attracted”
5. Infidelity
Now if you look at the first one, suddenly number 2 becomes more important
than it should – meaning when we are not communicating well, we focus on other
things, the first of which is finances. Then that can get us acting like we are on the
complete opposite team and often that leads to number 3 which takes on many
forms – abusive language, insults, shutting down, isolating, abandoning to name a
few. When it gets to the fourth stage, the fifth is the most common and logical:
we begin looking for the escape route because we want out.
In other words, one leads to the next and so the crazy dance, unhealthy love cycle
begins.

It’s time to learn a new dance! It’s not too late to join us for our How to Love
Trench Class! Contact us today!

www.trenchclassesunited.com

Truthfully,

Evinda