Posts Tagged ‘edify’

October’s WOW From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Monday, October 4th, 2010

Welcome to Coffee Hour at Chicklit Power and thanks so much for coming by. I hope you had a great weekend. I missed our time on Friday and I was all prepared to share our October WOW – words of wisdom – since it was the 1st, but you know the saying, better late than never. So grab your coffee and come on in.

I have already been challenged personally with this month’s WOW, and I guess you could say that’s why I know it’s the right one. These words of wisdom speak to an area that I know I need growth in and that’s the beautiful thing about them, is they bring growth and because I’m sharing it with you for our Coffee Hour, these words also bring accountability, like quite a bit of it.

All of us have people who rub us the wrong way, who have hurt us, slandered us, talked smack about us, belittled us, I mean the list could go on and on and on, but let’s reverse that and if I were honest, I could say that I have been guilty of all the above, too. My tongue is my sharpest, most exercised and used weapon, and if I dare go a day without meeting with Daddy, that same tongue that praises Him in songs of worship, shares His love and hope with many can spew words out of my mouth as though it had never been tamed. That’s why it’s a double-edged sword.

So I make myself accountable to you, and later in the month, I’ll even share some ways I’ve been challenged in this area already and challenges that I’m sure to encounter over the next few weeks.

Our WOW is found in the book of Ephesians, chapter 4, verse 29. Paul is teaching, and if you haven’t read up about him, he’s my kind of guy; a man full of wisdom, but not haughty, a teacher, yet teachable and humble, one who had been given much grace and therefore gave much grace, one who didn’t sugar coat the truth, was bold, yet gentle. Yeah, some day I’d like to be a Paulette!

N-E-Ways, the scripture goes like this: “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.

So let’s look at the word corrupt. The Greek translation is “sapros” and it means rotten, bad, poor quality. In other words, no cuss words, rank jokes, words spewed in anger, lies, words that stir up trouble. Whew, I’m thinking that when I’m ticked off, I need to be a woman of fewer words. And the slang words, well, I’m thinking those gotta go!

Continuing on, look at the phrase “but what is good for necessary edification.” That last word means “building up.” See, that right there shows the power of words. We possess the power to build others up with our mouth; unfortunately we have the power to tear them down, too. He knew that and He knows that about us; that’s why the mouth and our words are one of the most talked about subjects in the book of Proverbs. If you were to ever ask anyone who’s ever been physically and emotionally abused which abuse was the worst, they could share every scar carved in their soul word for word, but somehow, the physical abuse fades away with time, is easier to leave behind.

The last part of the verse makes it clear that our words are to impart grace, which is unmerited favor. Not because the one who hurt you or ticked you off deserves it, but because that is the best mirror image of Him that we could give. No matter how mad I get at someone, I don’t want to be a cause for any emotional scar. I’d rather be pleasing than grieving.

Blessings

Evinda

A Psalm A Day… at Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power, and welcome back to our “A Psalm a Day” series. It’s great to be back in the Psalms. It’s looking like it’s going to be another cool morning, so grab something hot to drink and come on in.

So today is the 9th and instead of picking up with Psalm 9, I thought we’d go to 109, and wow, I know we can all relate to the first five verses of this Psalm: “Do not keep silent O God of my praise! For the mouth of the wicked and the mouth of the deceitful have opened against me. They have spoken against me with a lying tongue. They have also surrounded me with words of hatred and fought against me without a cause. In return for my love, they are my accusers, but I give myself to prayer. Thus they have rewarded me evil for good and hatred for my love.”

Let’s pause for a second and talk about this. To give you a little background, David is the psalmist here, and he’s endured many, many false accusations, gossip, and physical attacks on his life by people who wanted to take him out for one reason or another. So these first few verses, he’s venting to God. Because he took it to the right person, he remained blameless, and did not go sliding down the slippery slope of gossip. I wonder what life would be like if we vented only to our Father, and didn’t talk about someone else to too many someone elses, if you know what I mean. I know that there would be a whole lot less pain caused by gossip in our individual worlds. I’ve been on both ends of the rope, and they both hurt. To keep our venting strictly to Him is easier said than done because we tend to cry ouch when we’ve been hurt, but suffice it to say, if it isn’t honest, don’t say it, and if it tears down, zip it up and let it out in prayer! For those of you who don’t have an active prayer life, well, write a letter to God. It’s a great place to start.

Anway, the rest of this psalm is considered an imprecatory psalm (which means to invoke evil upon, a curse, a wish of some form of adversity or unhappiness to befall upon another person), and a call from David to God to judge the wicked. These parts of the psalms are known to sound harsh, but it’s important to know that David did not take it upon himself to bring harm to any enemy.

For our time today, I thought it would be good to rewrite the first five verses, and I will do it based on my own stuff, but please, try meditating on these verses and then rewriting them using one or more of your own personal circumstances concerning this subject. It’s a good way to let go of some junk from your trunk!

So here goes: (1) Thank you for listening to me, Oh Friend and Father. (2) I know you are saddened when mistruths are spoken about your kids by your kids, when lies are started like wildfire and others take a match and spark it too for their own personal reasons armed with only partial truths. (3) The tenacity with which they misunderstand me and the residue of their schemes surround me. Oh, but it is so senseless this side of heaven. (4) In exchange for their accusations, Father, please help me to show love. Help me give myself to prayer (5) even when they persist.

Go ahead and get your journal out and let it out. It’s the best preventative medicine for gossip!

Blessings

Evinda