Posts Tagged ‘#hearthelp’

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Tuesday, January 9th, 2018

Two wrongs never = a right or wrong + wrong never = right!

Church bashing… it’s become even easier to do, especially on social media
platforms, but how do we respond when we see comments on the various
platforms that are riddled with negativity and resentment?
Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench
Truth with Trench Classes United.
I was scrolling through my feed the other day and the eyes of my heart caught a
post that was written by someone who obviously had some resentment towards a
certain church. I read through the comments, most of them encouraging this
person didn’t need to go to church, others empathizing with her sharing their
“bad” experiences with church.
Now, I know it wasn’t her motive to do harm to the “Church,” and that’s the
deposit I started with. I then went on to validate her “feelings” which are rooted
in a lot of her own unresolved stuff and suggested she go straight to the person or
persons who had apparently offended her; that perhaps that would be a more
direct route towards resolution instead of using a social media platform, which
would only serve to taint the reputation of all churches even worse.
When Jesus confronted others with their “sin,” He didn’t get on Twitter,
Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, or Linkdin…or any other public platform. He did it
one on one, like the “ho” at the well! He showed love and respect while pointing
out her sin, not attacking her character. See, the more people we involve in the
conflict, the bigger the conflict becomes.

When confronted with a conflict, friend, why not take the direct route to conflict
resolution?

Truthfully,

Evinda

Faith Filled Friday

Friday, December 29th, 2017


Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, Coffee Hour Friend. Come grab a warm cup of
coffee and sit with me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Faith Filled Friday with
Trench Classes United.

Last Friday I shared about stopping to give thanks to God even through our busy days.
Well, God reminded me to do this last week during a difficult time, and boy it was a
beautiful blessing.
My next week was filled with discord between me and hubby. It seemed we were
bickering or disagreeing over every little thing. These small arguments would ignite
anger or frustration from my hubby, which then ignited the same attitude from me. This
is not how God calls me to respond in these kinds of situations, but instead of acting as
God calls me to, I acted in my flesh which never brings any good to any situation.
Colossians 4:6 says: “Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with
salt, so that you will know how you should respond.”
Looking back, I am thankful, not for the constant disagreements I was having, but that
Jesus perfectly provided for my every need. He gave me specific scriptures to my
situation. These scriptures were on having peace with one another, no matter the
situation. 1 Corinthians 12:25 AMP says: …”so that there would be no division or
discord in the body {that is, lack of adaptation of the parts to each other}, but that the
parts may have the same concern for one another.”
Let me tell you, allowing my flesh to be bathed in these very scriptures wasn’t an easy
feat. It took an abundance of being before the Lord in prayer and meditating on the
scriptures His Spirit placed on my heart. Each day, I would lay me and my imperfections
down, and ask God to change me, and to help me show love and compassion to my
hubby. Doing this each day brought me a new peace, mercy, grace, and forgiveness for
my hubby.
Romans 14:19, the amplified version was another great reminder which convicted and
confirmed me: “So then, let us pursue {with enthusiasm} the things which make for
peace and the building up one another {things which lead to spiritual growth}.”
As I submitted the disagreements and discord between my hubby and I to the Lord, my
frustration and anger began to dwindle. In other words, I in my flesh began to decrease
as He in me increased. I realized that the enemy is out prowling and feasting on all who
are vulnerable. We were perfect targets for the enemy to wreak havoc on.  He may
have won the first battle, but we won the war through Jesus Christ who sustains and
protects us.
Is there discord between you and someone, your spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker?
Remember who’s behind this, whose desire is to build walls and cause division. Stand
up against the enemy, rebuking him and his lies in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.  I
pray these verses above would be a great comfort to your heart. The hurt may be great,
but I urge you to lay this hurt at the foot of the cross and let Jesus deal with your heart
and the other person as He sees fit. Praise Him, for you aren’t alone in this battle; Jesus
is right beside you every step of the way.

I pray as families gather for the holiday season, we’d all go before the Lord and ask for
an extra dose of grace and mercy for our loved ones.

Love,

Ashley

Faith-Filled Friday

Friday, December 22nd, 2017

Happy Friday! Grab a warm cup of coffee and come sit with me. Thank you in advance
for taking time and joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Faith
Filled Friday with Trench Classes United.

Last week and this week the Holy Spirit has reminded me of what it means to truly have
a heart of thanksgiving. Last week was a week of pain and hurt, and I was consumed
with grief. I was crying out to the Lord, “how much more?” I came before Him with each
obstacle that I faced each day. Although the obstacles caused me pain and hurt, Jesus
was right there to comfort and reassure me of His great love for me, and not only His
love but the love of others He brought to me.

Have you ever noticed that He is constantly sustaining us in each second, minute, and
hour of every day? He is always there lending His strength and love.

Have I stopped and truly thanked Him for providing my every need for each day? Have I
truly praised him for all He has done and has been doing for me? I have been thanking
Him, yes. But, I don’t believe I have truly been giving Him the great praise He so
deserves. As I sat with Him this morning, I was overcome by the Holy Spirit to stop and
just sing out praises to the Lord and thank Him for every single thing he has done for
me and my family.

Philippians 4:19: And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs
from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.

I found I had become complacent with my thanksgiving. Thanking him half-heartedly
because frankly I was too busy to stop and give Him the due praises He deserves. Can
you relate with me? Can you relate to being hurt and filled with grief unable to let it go
and let God love you with His great love, and believe that His love would be enough?
When He’s answered your prayers, have you forgotten to thank Him and give Him the
praise for hearing your prayer and providing for your every need?

Psalm 9:1:  “I will give thanks to you, LORD, with all my heart; I will tell of all your
wonderful deeds.

If this is resonating with you today, will you stop right now and count your blessing one
by one? Let Him hear your grateful heart and sing His praises.

Jeremiah 3:19 says: “From them will come songs of thanksgiving and the sound of
rejoicing. I will add to their numbers, and they will not be decreased; I will bring them
honor, and they will not be disdained.”

Pray with me.

Heavenly Father,

Thank you for hearing our prayers. Thank you for sending Your only begotten Son to die
for us. Thank you for loving us in our mess and for forgiving us for all of our sins. Thank
you that each day you give us new mercy, grace, and forgiveness. Lord, without you we
cannot make it through our days victoriously. You calm the seas when they’re raging
and provide the very need when we need it. You repair relationships that seem to be
undone. You bring a new love to what we thought was a dead love. You are Almighty,
Omnificent, Magnificent, Alpha Omega, the beginning and the end. Oh Abba, thank you
for loving us and seeing us as redeemed. Fill us afresh with Your helper, the Holy Spirit,
so we can go out and share your great love with others. Thank you, Jesus, for your
perfect and true love for us. There is none like you, and we sing your praises this
morning, Lord. Fill us with a heart of Thanksgiving!

 

In Jesus’ Mighty Name, Amen

Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday, December 20th, 2017


Live life on purpose!

We are days away from the most celebrated holiday…Christmas! Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Wednesday’s Word with Trench Classes United.

Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness and self-control…these are the ingredients for living a life on purpose, with intention. As we are coming to the end of another year, I like to ask God for a word to live by for the following year and this is what I heard: Intention. I shake my head in agreement and think, okay, Abba. I like that directive…especially now that I feel like this ministry you’ve called me to is going to start going up the mountain instead of around and around and around…again and again! I wanted to learn about the word. Here’s the path He took me on to make my discovery:

The Merriam Webster’s Dictionary defines it in this way:

A determination to act in a certain way: RESOLVE

Oh, my goodness, I just got so excited because I remember years ago learning about that word
“resolve,” which actually is part of the word resolution, as in New Year’s resolutions.

The root word for resolve and resolution is “reso” which according to the Hebrew and Greek
Concordance means: “To partner with the Holy Spirit”!

In other words, He’s there, ready and waiting to help each of us to live with intention.

Intentionally,

Evinda

Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday, December 13th, 2017

Okay, let’s keep it real…are you enjoying everything you’re doing to celebrate this season? Oh, how I pray you are; otherwise, why do it, right? I wrote this little jingle a few years ago to help us stay in the right frame of mind for this beautiful season. Thanks for joining me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and for Wednesday’s Word with Trench Classes United. I hope you enjoy the jingle!

The Gifts of the Season

It’s not about the presents under the Christmas tree

But the presence of love we feel for friends and family

It’s not about the shopping that we feel we must do

But about the gift that’s already been given freely to me and you

The gift is a gift that your money can’t buy

The birth and death of Christ was and is for you and I

It’s not about making a list and checking it twice

Or buying countless gifts for the naughty or nice

The reason for this season isn’t about all of the debt and stress

It’s the season to offer simple gifts such as patience and forgiveness

Or how about the gift of time with one whose time is running out

A meal for a family in need to encourage hope where there is doubt

Or maybe someone needs a helping hand to accomplish a tedious chore

And don’t forget your lonely neighbor down the street or right next door

Oh, if we would take the materialism out of this special season

And in its place find ways to make redemption as our reason

To offer the gifts that money can’t buy, this requires a sacrifice

Slowing down and paying attention, and practicing just being nice

Yes the gifts of the season come freely to and from those walking in His spirit

For they will always outlive materialism, though the world doesn’t want to hear it

Just remember that love, joy, peace and patience, no these gifts don’t need a season

Nor do the gifts of kindness, gentleness or self-control have to have a reason.

May the gifts of the season carry you to and through the New Year!

Much love,

Evinda

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Tuesday, December 12th, 2017

Have you ever anticipated something with such excitement only to be let down? Oh, but the let down can be a bit of a bummer…and yet there is always beauty if we look! You’re going to love today’s Trench Truth with a former Transformer so grab your favorite break time beverage and join me for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench Truth with Trench Classes United and Jenn Woosley.

All week V and I looked forward to Thursday evening, because we were going to decorate the house for Christmas. We’d decided to get a white tree…for something different. I knew she had this plan in her head, and I had my fingers crossed and prayers going up that we’d find what she hoped for.

Instead, as is often life’s case, we didn’t find a tree in the right price range. I watched my daughter go through a range of emotions. First anger, then tears, the “oh let’s just forget it all,” then resignation that we’d just get one she’d “settle” for. I told her that I understood her feelings and that I felt bad too. I also encouraged her to think past getting one that was ‘okay’ to perhaps ordering one that was what she really wanted. After minutes of this emotional storm, she calmed down and we decided to order a tree from Amazon — might I add in a very good price range. She told me, “Mom, it’s ok. I can wait to decorate until that tree comes. I was just disappointed.”

I see myself in this: Expectations dashed which bring on a full range of emotions: a sense of having to just settle, anger and tears to God that what I wanted didn’t happen. And yet…I also see Him wrapping His arms around me whispering that He has a different idea in mind. In some circumstances of my life, I am still waiting for that something better. I’ll dry my tears, and make the best of what is, in anticipation of what’s to come.

Jenn

Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday, November 23rd, 2016

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Welcome to Coffee Hour, friends, and to Wednesday’s Word. I can’t believe tomorrow is Thanksgiving! And I can’t believe how the time is just whizzing by! I wrote this poem three Thanksgivings ago now, when my son and his family had moved to Texas…oh, how I miss them, especially around the holidays. 

But God has spoke a poignant message to my heart and just like home is where the heart is, Thanksgiving is also a matter of the heart and isn’t just a day to celebrate, but an attitude to adopt!

I hope this poem brings a giggle to your soul and a new perspective on/in life and family!


Twas the Night Before Thanksgiving

Twas the night before Thanksgiving and all through the house

Every creature was stirring, including the mouse

Everyone was working on all of the fixings

The noise and smells were coming from the kitchen

The children were busy with their tablets and toys

Captured in their games, they made not a noise

While the adults laughed and worked all collectively

What a beautiful sight it was for any heart to see

When all of a sudden there arose such a clatter

Mom ran to the kitchen to see what was the matter

She looked to the left and she looked to the right

She couldn’t believe what was in plain sight

There was broken glass from a favorite platter

And at first glance, she knew it didn’t matter

Everyone was frozen, waiting for her reaction

But she didn’t give the devil that satisfaction

The counters were a mess, preparations everywhere

It looked as though a tornado had just gone thru there

The turkey had flown from the platter to the floor

The poor thing looked like it just couldn’t take no more

The stove was a disaster waiting to happen

full of pots and pans, handles overlapping

The old mom would have immediately gotten on her broom

And painted the atmosphere with a bit of doom and gloom

But the new and improved mom was no longer that way

For she had learned the true meaning of Thanksgiving Day

She stared at each of them and the mess they surrounded

Knowing her response would leave each one of them astounded

 

Now sons, now daughters, in-laws and friends like family

Is this ever a sight for the eyes of my heart to see?

More than the chaos, the mess on the floor

The memories we’re making are worth so much more

So grab a rag, and a dishtowel too

Here’s one for each and every one of you

Let’s work together in cleaning up this mess

It will only take a few minutes or less

Pick up the turkey, and we’ll wash him off

We’ll stuff him but good and put him in the trough 

We’ll baste him all over, and get him ready to eat

No one will ever know we stepped on his feet

And when the morrow comes and we gather for the meal

We’ll be able to discern what matters and what’s real

Faith, family, friends, love and laughter

Help to bring us all the happily ever after

I looked to each of them with tears in my eyes

And said something I had just realized

Oh, why can’t it be Thanksgiving every day?

Loving each other in a Christ-like way

 

Patience, self-control, love and joy too

Are there for the asking for each of you

We don’t have to wait for a holiday to see

That Christ’s greatest gift is that of family

Praying you enjoy your Thanksgiving, no matter what circumstances you are in, no matter who you are with … or not with!

Thankfully,

Evinda

kim L

Monday’s Mantra

Monday, November 21st, 2016

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Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. I’m so glad you could join us for a few minutes and a Monday’s Mantra to encourage your soul! Come on in and join us for a conversation about time management and prioritizing our time and we are still on the parable of The Good Samaritan as taught in Luke 10.

“We each have 24 hours in a given day; how we choose to spend each moment determines how spent we are”! EL

Let’s face it; one of the top objections, aka excuses, for not neighboring, let alone being mindful of others is time…because we’re just too busy. So let’s sit here for just a bit. We need to have the eyes of our heart opened. But that can’t happen while we’re on the run! When you open up your eyes in the morning, what’s the first thing you do? Do you check social media or do you check in with God?   

I love what Jullien Gordon, a millennial (Generation Y) expert says about this topic of “busy.” she distinguishes between a workaholic and a high performer by saying the workaholic or the busy person wants to look more important while the high performer looks for important work! 

In other words, when we’re busy being busy, we miss opportunities to neighbor because we don’t even recognize them. We’ve got to take the time to make the time, just like the Samaritan did!

Ephesians 5:15-17 suggests to us to “be careful how you live,” in other words, be mindful of how we invest our time.  But how do we stop being so busy at being busy? Could it be that our priorities are a bit out of alignment because of the way we begin our day? As I rewind the clock of my spiritual journey, I can honestly say that I am most productive when I get plugged into my source of energy first thing in the morning, or the rest of the day seems to go awry. 

Psalm 90:14 says it perfectly: “Satisfy us in the morning with your steadfast love so that we may rejoice and be glad all our days.” Have you ever tried to eat a meal while on the run? I can’t help but giggle when I get that picture. We can’t sit and soak in His steadfast love if we don’t sit…and just be!

Oh, I can hear you now…but I have no time in the morning to meet with Him…oh, Coffee Hour Friend, you can’t afford not to because the crazy thing is, if/when you put Him first in  your day, He will multiply your productivity! Does a car run with no gas, or oil, or water? Does a light turn on without being plugged in to its source of power? Well, we are called to be lights…plug in first thing and see what happens!

Love,

Evinda

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Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday, November 16th, 2016

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Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right!


Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word @ Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. Grab your favorite beverage and your strand of faith and let’s go tie some knots together.

Just a little over a week ago all of us witnessed a moment in history…a shifting, if you will, an unexpected jolt for many as the results for president were announced.  No, don’t worry; I’m not going to make this political. Instead, I’m going to bring it back to each of us as individuals, one nation under God, and the conduct expected of us by the Overseer of our soul. 

Come with me to 1st Peter 3:8-10 where Peter is instructing the new believers who are enduring a lot of persecution for their beliefs. I truly believe with all my heart that these words are truth to our troubled souls in this most uncertain time in our lives and nation: “8Finally, ALL OF YOU, (emphasis added) have unity of spirit, sympathy, love for one another, a tender heart, and a humble mind.9Do not repay evil for evil or abuse for abuse; but on the contrary, repay with a blessing. It is for this that you were called—that you might inherit a blessing.

Do I need to say more?

Not really, but of course I will; after all, it’s Coffee Hour!

I have heard many stories of others being verbally abused by those who felt the election didn’t go the way they wanted, but I’ve also watched as anger and fury have literally contorted souls, creating an entirely different personality than what we had come to know and love. It has been heart-wrenching to watch, but I’ve also experienced the backlash from those who just have a very strong opinion. And when I step back and watch, without putting my own two cents in there, I realize there is a fear driving each and every one of them to this angry boiling point, and instead of making it about our fear, our opinions, which are pride-driven as well, maybe we ought to remember Who is ultimately in charge. This didn’t knock Him off His throne, beloved!

This week’s word comes as a great reminder to all of us from the Authority over heaven and earth, the One whom you and I will ultimately answer to for our conduct, the One watching, and I’m certain, shaking His head, His heart grieving over the division of what was once one nation under God, and yet…my heart eagerly awaits for Him to move mightily for I believe what was meant for evil will be used for good and His glory; I believe this nation is finally ready for another revival! 

We as “believers” need to turn our focus upward, winning others over by our gentle spirit, our sympathy and love for one another, moved into action by a tender heart and a humble mind…ah, yes, humility. Oh, Coffee Hour friend, where is our humility? When it’s all said and done, He’s not going to ask who we voted for, but one thing I do know is He will talk to us about our conduct after this most pivotal election!

Humbly,

Evinda 

kim L

Monday’s Mantra

Monday, November 14th, 2016

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Up and Out!


Thanks so much for joining us for Coffeehour @ chicklitpower and Trench Classes United! Welcome to Monday’s Mantra. Grab your coffee, or your favorite break time beverage and your Strand of Faith and let’s go tie some knots as we wrap up “How to neighbor” with the final words of verse 35: and whatever more you spend, when I come again, I will repay you.” For those who are new to this series, we are talking about the parable of The Good Samaritan and all the principles we can learn to live by from these few verses in Luke 10.

When the Samaritan left, it wasn’t like he had a cell phone and could call the innkeeper and have any balance sent to him by snail mail! Oh, how I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall to listen and watch this conversation take place. Not much detail is given about their conversation but it is safe to presume that the innkeeper agreed because the Samaritan leaves with the promise of returning. 

That brings us to the final characteristic of how to neighbor who we neighbor, which is almost exactly the same as what starts the process: Keeping our eyes open. It’s a form of focus, if you will. It rings in this truth: when we are about His business, He’s taking care of our business, as promised in Matthew 6:33.

Proverbs 16:3 tells us to commit our work to the Lord, and our thoughts will be established. Wow, so few words that pack such a powerful punch. In other words, we don’t have to chase our tails and go around and around the same mountain, but if we turn our focus upwards, He will lead us onward! The moment we take our focus off of our Guide, we begin to walk sort of caddy-wampus, at least I do.  

The other day, as I was riding one of the longest escalators in L.A., I looked up to the tall, and taller and tallest buildings, breathed a big sigh of contentment and asked, “What do you have for me today, Lord?” And within two hours He showed me. I had not one, but two divine appointments. 

Take a moment and ask yourself: What are two things that get in my way of keeping my eyes open to the needs of others around you? Go ahead, be honest; no one’s going to judge you! 

So how do we do avoid the distractions, or set aside those things which concern us to be more available to neighbor? I think it begins with understanding that we don’t have to do it alone. We have been promised a Helper. In John 14:26, Jesus tells the disciples – and you and I are part of that crowd, that He will send the helper, the Holy Spirit to teach us all things. What a comfort! 

All we have to do is resolve in our hearts to acknowledge and accept that help; in other words, live like He’s alive in us. The word root for resolve is “reso” and the Greek translation defines it like this: “to partner with the Holy Spirit”! I don’t know about you but I find that affirming and confirming and comforting. 

Oh, what would our worlds look like if we lived like HE is alive in us?

Love,

Evinda

kim L