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Nana Holds from Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thursday, June 27th, 2013
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Thanks for taking time out of your busy day to join me for Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and more of Nana Holds. Grab your coffee and come on in for a few!

Before we get to our word for today, I need to say happy birthday to a very special friend of CPM and mine, Gay Hardy. So if you’re reading this and you know her, would you remember to offer up a prayer of blessing for her and give her a happy birthday message!

Valentine’s Day was just around the corner. Ugh, just saying V Day brings mixed emotions. What a racket, huh? Every day should be a day we show love to the one we love and commit to! I’m not sure if it’s spiritual maturity or my age, or maybe a combination thereof, but I no longer hold such high and unreasonable expectations to experience all the romance that ambiance and money can buy paid for by my guy. We shouldn’t need a holiday to celebrate our love, but I didn’t always believe that.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m a sucker along with the best of ‘em, buying cards and some cute little something-something for each of our grandkids, seizing the opportunity to shower them with love and affection and laughter. I just don’t expect my husband to be prodded and pushed like a puppet to do something society says he has to do on Valentine’s Day! Give me romance when I least expect it; now that’s what I’m talking about!

This year, as it drew near, I got an idea to make it a better day for Jene’ because by now, she and Bryce are “in love.” You know the old saying we always want what we can’t have? Well, I was sensing she was bumming a bit because what she couldn’t have was a Valentine’s date with her guy, our son so, George and I invited her to join us and Bryden for a Valentine’s Dinner at an Italian restaurant here in Yucaipa. We had never been there before and they were having a Valentine’s dinner special so George made the reservation and I’m so glad he did.

In his daddy's arms . . .and heart

In his daddy’s arms . . .and heart

Jene’ had the happiest smile on her face when Bryden demanded to sit by her. Ah, acceptance from a child is a beautiful thing; of this I can state with the utmost of certainty. We took turns entertaining him while talking and waiting for dinner. We discovered that Jene’ was still reveling in the familiarity with which she interacted with Bryden, despite the newness of the relationship. Inwardly, I was marveling at the same thing. But when God does things, often they are mind boggling, head-scratching kinds of ways, and you know that you know that He’s orchestrated the dance that’s taking place!

We made another discovery on that Valentine’s night: we all found out just how much Bryden loves spaghetti! There was no coaxing and prodding, begging and pleading for him to eat his dinner. No bribery with Oreo cookies necessary, though we did give him some anyway! Yes, our Valentine’s Day dinner and evening was far from romantic; but it was better. And though in my heart I still wondered how long all of this would feel so hard, I was beginning to see changes from the inside out!

Join me tomorrow for more of Nana Holds.

Evinda

Nana Holds!

Nana Holds!

 

The Night after the Bachelorette-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by for “The Night after the Bachelorette.” Grab your coffee and come on in. We’re about to go on the hometown dates with Ashley and the four guys, Ben, Constantine, Ames and JP, and it appears we have some concerned families.

It’s already the first commercial break and the only thing she’s said that is worth writing is that when you meet the families, it puts things on a whole different level. Okay, let’s get to the first hometown date with Constantine, who is a restaurant owner.

Oh, I can’t wait to meet his family. He took her to his restaurant and she was really impressed with the love all his staff showed him. He taught her how to make a pizza while his staff peeked around the corner totally checking her out. He’s actually very funny and Ashley picked up that he’s totally real and more comfortable in his own space. Constantine just said something rather profound: “That’s like the beauty of love is that you can only be open and ready for it. You can’t do anything to make it happen or force it to happen.” OMG, you should have seen his chefs and waiters and waitresses all looking through the glass window out onto the patio, straining their necks, a couple of them obviously on tippy-toes to see if he was going to kiss her and he didn’t disappoint them! 🙂

Now it’s time to meet his family. How cute; they have balloons hanging up with a “Welcome Home Constantine” sign. His sister, mother and father were so excited to see him. Dad recognizes his happiness right away. The love in the family is beautiful music and it inspires Ashley.

Mom initiated a one-on-one talk with Ashley and I love her insight. She wants her son to find the love of his life, but she feels that they need more time because of course, everything is wonderful when you’re jetted away to these awesome places and beautiful beaches, and life is wonderful, but real life is different! Can I get an AMEN!!! I like her! Now she wants to ask a mama question, which was legitimate. She wanted to know if this did go in that direction, would Ashley relocate to where they all were, and Ashley said without a doubt, she wouldn’t have a problem doing that, especially if it’s what he wants.

Now it’s time for father and son who reiterates that it takes time, but he gives his blessing if he feels that Ashley’s the one. Dad said to use his mom and him as an example. He talked about ups and downs, that it’s not going to be perfect, but in the beginning, it should be.

Ashley was obviously very comfortable and had no idea about the planned surprise just as they were going to get ready to leave the doorbell rings and his entire family shows up, grandmas, aunts, uncles, sister, cousins and then they did this dance. I could so get on with his family. “All the pieces of the puzzle are really put together for me and Constantine,” Ashley said. She really didn’t want to go. And Constantine’s dad, well he wished for them to have love forever.

Ahhh, Ames is so excited to see her and his family includes a sister and her husband, another sister and a brother and his wife and his nephews and nieces. Mom can see that Ashley has really caught Ames attention, and his sister Serena could see the spark but wonders if Ashley has it. So, she gets right to it and tells Ashley clearly he has feelings for you. It’s serious now. You’re meeting his family now, his nieces and nephews and I’m just curious, what are your feelings for Ames?

Ashley admits that their relationship has moved a lot slower than the others but she’s choosing him over the relationships that have moved faster because she sees so many good things in him.

Serena asks another tough question: are you comfortable when you guys are together? Is it easy or do you feel like you have to work toward things or do you guys just — does it come naturally?

She feels something for him; he’s different in a good way and she’s just not ready to stop learning about him.

His sister says, “He’s like an onion. You keep peeling layers and you’re going to find out more.” She then confirms that he’s the most loyal, honest person you’ll ever know and he’s a romantic. His sister says that Ames has brought other girlfriends home before but this time it’s different. “He’s smitten with you.”

All Ashley could say is she wants to know more.

When Mom and Ames talk, he really comes out with how much he admires how she’s handled things. We definitely have a different opinion on that one.

Okay, now back with his sister Serena. Ashley asked her to tell her a bit about Ames’s father who died when Ames was ten and then his step-dad passed away, too. So that gave Ashley another piece to this puzzle. Serena wasn’t convinced that Ashley’s spark was/is as bright as Ames. Oh, now Ashley is telling Ames’ mom that she thinks they’re both similar and yet, when Ames has said that, she looked a bit bemused. Bummer, she just admitted to still missing the spark, that romance and passion. Why is it we feel that has to come first?

Oops, his sister gave Ames a heads up about kicking up the romance, so he did just that and took her to this beautiful garden and under his favorite tree with a picnic lunch.

Oooh, I like what Ames says: You can have romantic through the ordinary. There’s so much more magic in the ordinary; life doesn’t have to be like fireworks. And then she reached over and he leaned in and kissed her. Then he took her on a horse-drawn carriage with some beautiful horses, the perfect ending to their hometown date, a storybook romance.

Now it’s time for Ben, Sonoma, California. This is the winemaker and he says it’s his turn to surprise her all day. They start at the winery, and he shows her many more facets to him and they share a sweet moment before they begin their picnic in the rain. Ben tells Ashley that he’s only brought one woman home to meet his mother, and he assures her that it’s a big deal to him. Ashley asked Ben to describe his dad: “A gentle giant, super happy with life, soft-spoken, didn’t say a lot but super, super happy about life. He would have liked you.” Ben admits that this process has put him in touch with a different side of himself, the emotional side and he likes it. I hope he’s able to say that no matter what happens. Ben makes it very clear that “my mom and sister have to like you, or it’s not going to work for me.” If things don’t go well, then it may be the end for me.” Wow, his vineyard is beautiful.

Ben’s sister breaks the ice by talking about Ben’s hair, and then admitted to being the one that signed him up for the Bachelorette. Julia says Ashley is sweet, but she’s skeptical so she brings Ben in the kitchen and they talk, heart to heart. Ben admits to being into it despite it being scary and exciting all at the same time. When his sister asked if he saw himself engaged at the end of this, she smiled when he responded that if things keep progressing the way that they are, he most definitely sees himself engaged. Wow, I sure hope he don’t get a broken heart. 🙂 🙁  🙂

Ben told his mom that he hasn’t said he loves her but he likes her a lot. He’s really grown through this process, and he talks about his dad that passed away, and mom tells him that she thinks dad would be proud of him. Ahh, Ben has tears in his eyes. What a sensitive heart. With tears running down his face, he admits to missing his dad. There really is a little boy inside each man.

Okay, so now it’s JP’s hometown and this is who I think she feels the most for. We’re in Long Island and JP’s so excited to have her all to himself and he didn’t sleep a wink all night. It’s raining so JP has a special plan for them and Ashley narrates that she doesn’t care if she walks with JP down the street for three hours. She just wants to be with him. That says a lot! They’re going roller skating and didn’t even get their skates on before kissing. She is the most genuine with him. She’s going to meet his mother, father, his brother Roy and his brother’s girlfriend. JP admits to taking only four girls home to meet his family. He also admits that he’s willing to risk getting hurt for a chance at love. Interesting concept, huh?

The welcome from the family was genuine and loving. Mom is concerned and has so many questions to ask. She is honest about not wanting to see her son’s heart hurt like it was hurt before. When she asked if he was in love, he couldn’t quite say it, but he is confident that she doesn’t share what they share with the other guys. Mom is still guarded and tells Ashley as much as she relives a season of broken-heartedness for JP and says she’s nervous because she sees love in JP’s eyes when he looks at her. Mom really puts her on the spot and Ashley doesn’t flinch at all, but in fact encouraged it. She fell in love with JP’s family and talking to Chris, she has no regrets. I think maybe Constantine and JP and Ben get to stay, but let’s see.

Ben is the first name she calls to give a rose to. JP is second. Boy, they’re milking it. Just say Constantine’s name and get it over with. Whew, she just did. Poor Ames, he’s completely shocked, but still he’s smiling. He breaks down a little bit, telling her how impressed he is with her, and that it was beautiful and even more poetic than he expected and that he will remember every second of it. What a truly nice, nice guy, another broken heart. Somebody please tell me what is the purpose in all of this?

Have a great day,

Evinda

 

The Bachelorette, The morning after- From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and thanks for coming by for our “The Bachelorette the morning after,” blog about what happened, scene by scene on this what I’m going to term a meaningful series, but not for its message, more for all its ugly truths that I can pull out of the fantasy of it all. Grab your coffee and come on in for some girl talk. I’m sure you’ve seen some of the articles on our seemingly senseless bachelorette, Ashley.

I was in the grocery store on Saturday when I saw on the cover of US Magazine a picture of Ashley and the words, “Why she took him back.” I was standing quite a ways from it but as soon as I read those words with my new permanent fixtures that are on my face, aka, glasses – ugh — I walked up to the rack to pick it up as if picking it up would make it not true. I knew it! There to the left of her big, big picture – and she is cute but . . . never mind, I won’t be catty! – There is Bentley smiling like a little boy who just won some sort of huge friend contest or something. “Unbelievable,” I muttered. My honey was even disgusted and is now determined that the show is rigged. Can anyone really be that crazy to self-inflict such inevitable heartache? I didn’t even read the article. I actually have a personal preference for the PEOPLE Magazine because I have found things that they have printed to be true versus the other gossip magazines. And that’s not meant to offend anyone. I just like to keep it real and therefore, I need to read what’s real. So let’s go see how much of these previews they showed last week and the articles that are on the newsstands are true.

They’re off from Phuket to one of the most romantic cities in Thailand, Chang Mai. Ben F. gets the first date with Ashley in Chang Mai. They went to the big marketplace, tried on hats, she tried on clothes, they stopped at a painter’s booth and they painted umbrellas. Ben has a great sense of humor and is really interested in what interests her. Their dinner was set upon an amazing flower-engraved setting that flowed with romance. Ben shared with Ashley about his dad passing and his heart being guarded since then, sort of like an emotional zombie. He has since come to terms with it all and says he’s ready to move forward because he’s less selfish and is taking down the emotional walls.

Meanwhile back at the resort, it’s time to tell who’s going on the group date: Constantine, Ames, Nick, Blake, Lucas, Ryan, JP and Mickey, which leaves Ben C and for the 2 on 1 date.

Back to dinner with Ashley and Ben, she asked him what his agenda would be for the relationship and he said my agenda would be about spoiling her and focusing on her, and for the first time in a long time – she means since Bentley – she’s feeling hopeful. She’s definitely better suited for Ben than Bentley!

So this date is a perfect example for some Thai culture, some training in the Moi Thai boxing, hands, fists, legs, anything goes. They were all pretty animated to show off their stuff until they were actually taken to a live ring and told they were going to actually now put into reality what they had practiced. First up to fight is Blake versus Lucas, and the winner is. . . Blake! Now it’s J.P. and Mickey.

This is so stupid. What in the world was she thinking? Now she’s admitting that it wasn’t sucha good idea because she’ realizes as these guys are pummeling each other that she likes them more than she thought. So, J.P. the little guy beat Mickey. Now it’s Ames and Ryan, and Ryan has been a bit cocky since learning that they were going to be doing this. Oh, No, Ames is sort of seeing stars and is holding up his hands so Ryan won that one. Ames has never been in a fight in his life. Poor guy’s got glassy eyes! He got his bell rung.

Then it’s Nick and Constantine, but as they’re fighting, Ames isn’t looking so good and Ashley goes off to get him help and Constantine wins his match but Ames is taken away in an ambulance. Again, stupid idea, Ashley! 🙁 He does return hours later in the midst of their cocktail party after dinner, but he’s suffered a mild concussion and is not able to hold an intelligent conversation. He’s actually a bit goofy and disoriented.

Blake finally gets a moment with Ashley and I love what he said: He says that relationships that are hot out of the gate don’t last; love is a marathon, not a sprint! Then Lucas gets a turn and he gets to show her how to golf and all she can say is “I was pretty turned on.” But when Lucas asks her what her type is and she says she doesn’t have a type, he tells her he knows her type is like Bentley! You should have seen the look on her face!

So she’s made her decision about who gets the rose and Blake not only gets the rose but some reassurance too. By the way, he’s the dentist! 🙂

Now we’re on the two-on-one with William and Ben C. Wow, what a beautiful view through the river waters surrounded by wild life, waterfalls, greenery everywhere and then they get off at a little park-like setting and there are three elephants carrying three guys. William is actually annoying and definitely insecure. He spends his one-on-one time talking about Ben and throwing him under the bus.

OMG, and I thought women were the only ones who stirred the pot with gossip, which is garbage that comes out of one’s mouth and is usually not true! And, yes, she’s falling for it. I mean, hey, she fell for Bentley, right?  She actually ended the date halfway through based on the garbage that came out of his mouth. What a bummer, a huge misconception! I think she needs some communication classes, but then again, if she weren’t so insecure, I don’t think she would have handled it like that. She made it all about her. To put it in Ben’s words, “What a terrible, terrible way for things to end, such a shame.” But hey, the one-on-one date turned into a no-one date! She sent the pot stirrer packing, too! What goes around comes around!

Now that’s the smartest thing she’s done all night. I’m thinking this is the guy that roasted her really bad, right? But then here comes more insecurities and now she’s thinking maybe this way to find a husband isn’t going to work after all!  Hmmm 🙂

Okay, so we’ve wasted two whole segments talking about Bentley and her needing closure. So they’re building it all up really well so I’m sure we’re gonna see him soon, if not this show, then the next one! Wow, is that ever going to be a big piece of humble pie when she looks at the rewind of the episodes! I wouldn’t want to be her.

Finally, the rose ceremony, and Constantine gets the first one. Next up is Lucas. The other guys are looking a bit nervous. J.P. is the next one to get a rose. Ames gets a rose. He should! J Mickey gets the second to the last rose. Here comes Chris to tell us it’s the final rose. That’s so funny to me. J As if we don’t know that already! Anyway, it’s between Ryan and Nick, and Ryan gets it.

They are off to Hong Kong next week and guess who will be joining us . . . Yep, Bentley! I wonder how much he was paid?

Join me tomorrow for more on the “If I could have coffee with God . . .” series and our tough question is: Why do bad things happen to good people.

Have an amazing day

Evinda

The Bachelor From Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power

Tuesday, February 15th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome back to the 2011 Bachelor. Grab your coffee and come on in. We’re off to the Caribbean Island of Anguilla and we’re down to six girls.

There’s a lot at stake this week because two will be leaving and the final four will get to take Brad home to their hometown. This week, there’s three one-on-one date and one group date. On the one-on-one, the pressure’s off because there is no rose being earned. So who gets the first one-on-one? The card says: “Three things I would bring on a deserted island: Champagne, picnic lunch and Emily.”

Wow, so I was right; Brad feels a bit insecure when he’s with Em! He actually said he feels as if he doesn’t deserve her, and I’m sure that’s to do with the ghost of her first love. Brad even admits this is the most romantic date he’s ever planned. How seriously fun would that be to have the sky as your limit budget-wise when planning these dates. Don’t you think that that gives a person butterflies? They landed on a private island, Sandy Island. It really is a beautiful place to share one’s heart, everything is perfect, but there still is a tense atmosphere despite the beauty. He admits that he’s nervous, that he really cares for her so much, probably more than he should be telling her, he admits. I have to say that this is the most honest relationships, in my opinion, of all of them. There was a glitch when it came time to talk about Brad meeting her little girl. The hurt in his eyes was so profound, painful to see, but then he broke a few rules and told her he was going to be giving her a rose at the rose ceremony; that if she needed to make phone calls, she should make them because he was coming to her home town.

The next one-one-one is with Shawntel. Brad describes their relationship as slow and steady. How cute, they’re jump-roping together. She is definitely a fun girl, doesn’t take herself or life too seriously, despite being a funeral director. So they’re beginning the romantic evening part of their date and Brad just said something – and he’s said this many times before – but it’s like a light just went on. He’s like panicked because he’s been given this box, this timeline with which he’s got to have it all figured out with these six girls. That’s not how a “real” relationship works, how real long-lasting love is formed, is it?

So the final one-on-one is with Britt, and even Brad says she’s behind all the other women because they haven’t really had any one-on-one. So he goes all out and picks her up in a yacht, but they have to swim to it. So as the date progresses, it becomes very obvious that she is gonna be one of the two going home. I mean you can just feel the lack of connection, the awkwardness. And yet, she has the right idea; she’d like to get to know Brad. Brad, on the other hand, wonders why he doesn’t have a romantic connection. He looks so uncomfortable.

He’s a pretty genuine guy and can’t be phony. He squirms in his chair and then he can’t sit silent any longer. He tells her he doesn’t have those kind of feelings for her. She lets him know that she thinks more time is what they need to discover more about each other. He bluntly tells her it’s time to say good-bye. Wow, so he’s not even waiting for the rose ceremony. He puts her in a boat and sends her on her way. He felt she deserved to know the truth, rather than have her go through the grueling rose ceremony when he knew that he knew that they didn’t have a future.

It’s time for the group date with Ashley, Michele and Chantal. He comes into their bungalow and wakes them up in the middle of the night and has them get up and dressed. So they’re going to be in a photo shoot for the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition.

So Ashley’s first and it was all good until she agreed to take her top off and put two shells as her shields. Unbelievable! So unnecessary! Well, Chantal followed suit and had an out-of-body experience and totally played the part and took her top off too. After all, this is the big week; everyone’s competing for the hometown dates! Michelle wanted Brad to be in the shoot with her, so where does she plant herself, right on top of him, in the sand with the water coming up under them.

Well that sent the sparks flying and Brad admitted that he got caught up on Michelle’s aggressiveness and he shouldn’t have. It definitely was quite trashy. I wish that if the girls refused to have some class and self-respect that our dear producers could have chosen to use some discretion. 🙁

Wow, Brad gives Michelle a verbal pow-wow by telling her he’s afraid they’re too much alike; that what he sees is “a very strong almost volatile woman.” The whole date was a disaster. So much so that it gives Brad some clarity and he decides to forego the cocktail party before the rose ceremony. So this is why this season’s confrontational.

Okay, so before he starts handing out the roses, I’m putting my money on Michelle going home! Crossing my fingers, praying…..Emily’s first – he kept true to his word. Shawntel N. gets the next one and now it’s the final rose. Drum role, please, Chantal or Michelle, which one will it be! Yes! Chantal gets the rose and Michelle gets the boot. Asta La Bye-Bye, girl. Oh, my, she was pretty angry You did the right thing, Brad, and I’m glad that you finally recognized that you had a very strong chemistry attraction that would have eventually worn off.

Now we’re down to four and next week is family week so be sure and come back for more.

Blessings,

Evinda

2011 Bachelor (5) From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, January 25th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and welcome to our 2011 Bachelor series. Grab your coffee and come on in.

So did you see the interview with Brad on The View? I didn’t either but my adopted mom did and she said he really seemed like a really nice guy as he confessed that he just couldn’t honestly propose to either girl his first season because he wasn’t in love with either one of them. The cool thing about all that is he got to unpack some junk from his trunk after he realized he had commitment issues as a result of an absent father. Oh, but there’s some good news, if you want to call it that anyway: he did say that he is definitely in love so he does choose someone this time! Let’s get started.

We have the first date card. “Chantal, how deep is your love?” Hark, there’s a helicopter in the sky and it’s landing at the mansion! I’m twitter-paited already. How romantic. Now they’re in a boat headed for the sea floor. I don’t care how much I want to impress a guy; I so wouldn’t attach a tank to my back, force myself to do something I’m terrified of doing with a helmet on that boxes me in and now it’s me and claustrophobia walking on the sea floor. Oh, there’s Brad to hold my hand. Okay, the scenery is breathtaking. Chantal is in the background saying that the jump she took into the water is like putting yourself out there for love. That’s a pretty good analogy.

Back at the house, the doorbell rings to announce the group date card, Ashley S., Stacey, Lindsey, Britt, Meghan, Alli, Lisa, Ashley H, Jackie, “Let’s put our love on the line, Brad.” Michelle gets the drama queen award this season. As my husband says, “That girl’s got some major problems.” She’s obsessed with being the one for Brad; that’s for sure.

Back to Chantal and Brad. They talked about Chantal’s marriage that failed. As they talk, Chantal reminds us of their first meeting. She’s the one that smacked him right in the face and said it was from every girl in America. Brad obviously didn’t hold that slap against her and he definitely didn’t want the night to end; neither did she.

Now it’s time for the group date which is at “Loveline,” a live radio show with Brad and Dr. Drew. There are nine women on this date and Brad wanted each girl to open up and tell him their innermost feelings. Their roundtable discussion begins and Brad admits he’s never ever cheated before. Then Dr. Drew asked the question, “Who has cheated,” and there was one who raised her hand, Stacey. She gets a point for honesty. Now everyone questions Brad as to what is his type, and he says he wants someone that he can be himself around and that he can form a deep connection with. Dr. Drew confirms that Brad needs to be himself. Brad affirms that he’s in it for the right reasons this time. This part of the date was actually interesting because there was honesty from several of the girls, raw and vulnerable honesty.

Then comes the evening part and now they’re all fighting for his attention. Fear and frustration are what’s driving the evening and it’s really not comfortable watching. Thank goodness, saved by the bell. It’s the on-on-one card. Puke, “Let’s hang out together, Michelle.” Oh, if she would just hang out on the cliff and – never mind. That’s not very nice.

At the end of the evening, Brad was going to give the rose to Ashley, but then in the Jacuzzi, she shows some ugly color and he does a switch in his mind and gives the rose to Britt, all because Ashley’s insecurity did not become Brad’s debt! That’s an Evinda-ism, by the way. He didn’t own her insecurity; nor did he feed it. Love it!

Here he comes to pick up Michelle. Oh, I hope she goes home. Before he takes Michelle, he wants a few seconds with Ashley. He had to talk to her, encourage her not to retract, and of course, Michelle is furious because this is taking away from her time, and a heated argument begins to brew. Oh, good, here they come. Wow, you could have cut the tension with a knife that was caused by Michelle, and she continued to smear over the air as she jerked Brad out of the room. He looked like he swallowed an uh-oh pill. Not good!

So first they go by his place, then a helicopter picks them up and it lands on a building. She’s not taking the news so well, and as a matter of fact, she is freaking out when he tells her she has to rappel down the building. I was just kidding when I said put her over a cliff. It is kind of funny to see her freak, until she decides to take the leap for love. I wonder how much of an emotional high it is, versus falling in love, to conquer your fears with someone you’re attracted with. Dang it! She’s not going home; he’s giving her the rose and he actually thinks she’s an incredible woman. This right there proves this is not the way to really know someone and thereafter fall in love.

Brad talks to his therapist about the expectation of the kiss and how awkward he feels going from one woman to the next and exploring his feelings with the help of a kiss. I’m glad to know he’s feeling awkward about that. His therapist, however, encourages him to continue exploring. It’s time for the cocktail party before the rose ceremony. There’s no point in really repeating any background conversations going on, but let me say this that Brad obviously cares about Emily, one of the few that he didn’t get any type of date time this week, and he planned a little outdoor picnic for them, making it very clear she’s not out of his mind. I love the fact that their relationship is truly the most real and the most pure. Time to go back in the room and figure out who’s going and who’s staying, which means, more commercials@#$%^&*(n That’s probably how they fund all these dates is by all these sponsors/commercials 🙂

Three girls will be leaving. Here we go in the order he calls them: Ashley S., Alli, Emily, Shawntel N., Lisa, ( I didn’t’ see that one coming) Jackie, Marissa (I didn’t see that one coming, either) Ashley H gets the final rose. I thought he was going to send her home for her bad behavior. Okay, so it’s bye-bye Meghan, Stacey,and Lindsay. I have to say, these three were very very mature on their exit interviews.

Join me next week as we continue in this series and find more things that collide with truth and true love. Tomorrow, we’ll pick back up with 2010 WOW rewind with a true story.

Blessings,

Evinda

The Bachelor (3) From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, January 18th, 2011

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power, and welcome back to “The Bachelor. This is the third show and the previews are insinuating a lot of drama. Grab your coffee and come on in.

There are still 17 girls left, many hidden identities, three dates, a group and two individual dates. The first date card is for Ashley S, “Let’s find our love song.” Now this is the girl that got the first impression rose. Brad says he feels comfortable around her and that’s why he chose her for this “torturous event,” which is to record a song by Seal, “A Kiss from a Rose.” Poor Ashley, she’s terrified of singing in front of anyone, let alone someone that she’d like to fall in love with. Well, the song had sentimental value for Ashley, but they still butchered it. He didn’t seem to mind though when he appeared on the show and sang for the audience of two. I didn’t know he played guitar. He’s a pretty talented man, Seal that is. Their nighttime date was sweet with raw honesty and the sharing of special things. Dang it, I was just gonna write “and they didn’t even kiss” and the last thing they show was them kissing. I mean it wasn’t nasty or anything, it’s just that when kissing starts, bodies touch, it becomes more emotionally driven and getting to know each other becomes more difficult.

The group date card comes and the winners are: Lindsey, Alli, Brit, Kimberly, Sarah, Shawntel, Ashley H, Lisa, Stacey, Marissa and Michelle. The message: “Love hurts.” The previews show Michelle’s weakness, big time. She’s a barracuda, a not-so-stable chick. So they get to get down and dirty and film an action scene. As he is greeting the girls, the unexpected happens. Brad becomes part of an action scene, and he does pretty good, actually.

Oh, it’s another date card for the one on one. It’s for Emily and his message is “Love is intoxicating.” This is going to be interesting and exciting to see if she reveals a piece of herself, namely her daughter.

Back to the group date, and so far Shawntel is really catching Brad’s eye. She was pretty good. Michelle and her insecurity is getting really annoying! The rap party is meant for them to unwind and for Brad to get to know each of them a bit better. So Brad just got out of the pool, and I just noticed that he has a tattoo of a big cross on his back. Chantal reveals a very vulnerable side of herself to Brad, and shares a revelation she learned when her own dad passed away. She said she’s done living waiting for tomorrow. She wants to start living for today.

Meanwhile, back at the mansion, Emily reveals her big secret to the girls. She held them all captive with the facts of her love story that ended so tragically, and then she found out she was pregnant and she was only 18.

Oh, back to the group date. Emotions are flaring, and the girls are fighting for some one-on-one time with him and there’s Michelle, her voice in the background talking real smack, saying she wants a kiss and so she roams the area like a barracuda in heat, lets him know that she’ll wait until he’s done with his time with Alli but then she stands there and doesn’t even move! Then when she does have his attention, she demands to know why she never gets one-on-one time with him. Oh, wait, she’s turning  the tears on and manipulating him one turn at a time, talking about her daughter, hoping to fill their time with his sympathy. Well, she got her wish; he kissed her. She’s a bit evil, truly! 🙁

Oh, and the rose goes to Shawntel, the one who was really good in the action scene.

Brad comes to pick Emily up, and he has an extremely romantic date planned. He so wants to push past the small talk and get her walls down. They pull up to an airplane, the instrument that took her first love’s life away. And she still doesn’t tell him. So off to wine country they go. Hmmm, maybe the wine will bring her inhibitions down. She’s deflecting, not biting the bait. Please, Emily, tell him. Oh, nuts, it’s commercial time 🙁 There are too many commercials on this program. I’m gonna go get me some water.

Over dinner, Emily opens up just a crack and admits that there’s an elephant in the room. OMG, she’s starting to tell him the story, and she’s gonna do it. She finishes with “I’m the happiest mom of a five-year-old.” You could see she was so nervous to tell him, but I really am glad that she did. Brad looks elated. “Every single thing that you told me makes me like you even more.” He then goes on to ask her to tell him all about her daughter. She looked so happy with her walls down and talking about her daughter. Yes 🙂 She gets the rose! She’s really cute, very real, and so not a floozie! How do you spell that anyway? I just looked over at my husband, who is watching it with me, and he agrees. She’s sweet!

Emotions are running high and it’s time for the cocktail party and rose ceremony. Can we just fast-forward to the part that shows Michelle leaving the show, Please? Yep, that’s my vote.

Brad practices making the situation comfortable so that the girl he’s with will open up. First up to experience that is Alli. Chantal was next to experience that quality time with Brad, until Michelle came in and literally interrupted him. She’s rude and crude! Oops, I told myself I can’t say it if it ain’t nice. All right, it’s time for a graham cracker with peanut butter because It’s commercial time! 🙂

So Madison throws Brad a curve ball and is seriously contemplating leaving, and Ashley H. is not holding back her doubts either. Okay, let’s get down to it. 11 roses to hand out and three will be going home. So in the order they were called, here is the list of the rose recipients: NO WAY, he gives the first one to Michelle. Dang it! Shawntel O. – wait, Madison is leaving the set and there is now an interruption in the rose ceremony. Madison says good-bye, and admits if she had been herself from the beginning, things could have been different, and she knows she’ll regret it tomorrow. Now back to the rose ceremony. Will there be anyone who actually rejects a rose? Brad comes back and vehemently encourages the women to not accept the rose if they don’t feel right about it.

Okay. Lisa. Next is Jackie, Ashley H., Marissa, Britt, Alli, Lindsey – I’m thinking she won’t be here long, but we’ll see. Mehgan is another one that I don’t believe will be in the finals. The final rose goes to Stacey. Kimberly left, and not without a mean comment. Sarah cried. Tell me, do these girls cry because they weren’t chosen and they miss their chance at love, or could it be they’ll miss all the drama and Hollywood?

Hey, join me for my series with substance tomorrow, 2010 Wow Rewind. Have an amazing day.

Evinda