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Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Tuesday, January 2nd, 2018

When you watch shows like, “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette,” don’t those
dates look amazing? I mean, who wouldn’t fall in love with $3000 dates with a
helicopter ride, a candlelit dinner on the edge of a volcano in an unheard of

Thanks for joining us for Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench
Truth with Trench Classes United. Come on in for a moment of truth and an
invitation, too.
Could it be that we’re in love with the idea of being in love because of how shows
like The Bachelor and/or the Bachelorette hype up the romance? The best time
for romance is in marriage!

Join us January 3 rd to talk about love, sex, and no rose ceremony!


Tuesday’s Moment of Truth

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2017

Happy Tuesday…

Click on the arrow for a moment of truth and a special invitation, from my heart to yours!

Thursday’s Trench Truth

Thursday, December 1st, 2016

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Truth is one of the most powerful weapons against the darkness of lies; for lies encourage negative behavior and truth sets us free from them. Why is it so hard to face inner truths? Join us to learn how to embrace freedom by facing inner truths!

Encouraging you,



The Recipe for Confusion, part two… from Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Wednesday, December 3rd, 2014
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EL pen Logo with heartGenesis 50:20: But as for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for Good …

Thanks so much for joining me for our coffee hour and some clarity on the subject of confusion, what I deem to be one of the devil’s most powerful weapons in our everyday lives. Grab your coffee and let’s get back to the recipe!

Let’s keep digging to confirm the truth; that confusion never works alone!

Another translation for confound is “buwsh,” pronounced “boosh” and means: “to pale, by implication to be ashamed; also by implication, to be disappointed or delayed.”

So here we learn that confound/confuse is also accompanied by SHAME. Let me give you an acrostic for that word, another powerful weapon of the enemy’s: Self Harming Attitude Manifesting Externally! In other words, shame is internal while guilt is external and the difference is guilt has been atoned for but shame is something we tend to hang on to … internally!

So now, so far in this pot of confusion, we have fear and shame. Pretty powerful ingredients, wouldn’t you say? And definitely not tasting very good! 🙂

The Hebrew concordance also explains that this translation/word also has hints toward worthlessness.

So if confusion were a main dish we were preparing, we have at least how many ingredients here? And we’re not even done with the recipe!  Take a moment and write “Confusion” and then underneath that, begin numbering the ingredients. So far we have three. FEAR + SHAME + WORTHLESSNESS = CONFUSION in the making!

But there are still more ingredients to add to this pot of confusion!

Another translation for confounded/confused is “kalam” and it means:  “to wound, but only figuratively” — which means emotionally — and it also means “to taunt or insult.”

So now we have in the pot of confusion, or confoundedness, fear, shame, worthlessness, and now we’re shaking in a bit of “wounded, taunted, and/or insulted.”

Wow, this is getting more and more potent by the minute. It’s like I can see the Wicked Witch of the North standing over her pot sneering as she stirs all these ingredients in there, her nose twitching real good and the hair of her eyebrows singeing off. The echo of her evil laugh makes me shudder … but only for a minute because I’m on to her recipe and I’m going to ruin her recipe but good … and when she least expects it! You can too! But let’s get to the end of this recipe first.

The last Hebrew (Old Testament) translation for confounded/confusion is “yabesh” pronounced “yaw-bashe’” and in addition to meaning “to be ashamed,” it also means “to be dry, be dried up, be withered.”

Let’s exchange the Wicked Witch of the North for the Devil, and we’ll keep the cooking theme here:

Imagine him cooking up this pot of confusion to cast it into our life. He’s throwing in all these ingredients, and then all of a sudden, he turns his back for just a moment; comes back to the stove, and poof, everything has been dried up! Where did it go? It vanished so its power is now silent … but ever powerful! The truth is that’s what the recipe of confusion does to us … inside; it dries us up making it difficult for truth to soak into our hearts!

Look over all the ingredients for confusion and journal some ingredients that would counter-act each one! Join me tomorrow for the conclusion and an analogy that will give you power and clarity over this weapon of confusion.

Rejoicing over the victory …

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Highlights from Thriving in Life & Love from Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
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EL pen Logo with heartThanks for stopping by today. I’m still lost in all that happened at our Thriving in Life and Love event we held this past Saturday. Grab your coffee and come on in. I’d like to share some of the highlights.

I stood in my little room watching out from my window as the event began. I absolutely loved how our emcees interacted with the audience; they were both a breath of fresh air for our final event of the year! So humorously engaging!

I prayed for humor, as I always do, and I never know how He’s going to supply it, but let me tell you, He didn’t let us down! My sound pack which I wore on the back of my dress went out in the midst of my talk, and I went with it as it made all kinds of crackling noises and I crumpled to the ground to demonstrate my batteries had run out! I don’t remember exactly when it happened, but it was His perfect timing!

The message He spoke through me was rooted in the acrostic TRUTH-(Trust,Resolve to Respect, Understand your emotional dashboard, Taking the good with the Bad, and Halting instant gratification) and I did a visual alongside the message that He showed me quite some time ago. Basically it involves the lies we buy, which is the dirt inside of us, and the truth we need to learn to take in, which is water, and at first, what’s inside of us is all muddy, painful and most of the time, people run from that point on, not ready to stir it up and add more truth!

I’ve heard from several people that they are adding water to their dirt, and I’m beyond grateful and humbled, excited that He answered my prayer that hearts and lives would change!

Our second half was started off with an exciting round of raffle gifts from our Radical Raffle (over $3,000 in prizes) and then we opened up our Thrive, Not Just Survive, T.V. Talk Show with Steve . . . Oh, he gets better and better and I just love his heart! He brought four people up to play a game to demonstrate that a lot of us don’t know how to have fun! Boy did he make the point, but with such love and humor!

The closing was every bit as powerful wherein we asked any who wanted to come forward and commit to the 10 Ways to Thrive in Life and Love by taking a book marker off of the

a holy moment . . .

a holy moment . . .

cross . . . Everyone came forward …

That Holy Spirit moment, when nothing else matters, none of the details, the numbers, but lives and hearts changing, accepting new truths to bring false truths to the surface that they may reach their Destination? Joyful! ™

And to the team . . . WOW, each one of you is every bit as important as Steve and me! If I could do this behind a curtain, I would. I love knowing there’s you, and my heart is sad knowing we are going to not see each other as much since we will not be having an event for over a year (5th anniversary party) but I am praying that each of you prayerfully consider your new place in this ministry as it heads to the trenches to do some serious life-changing work!

Learning to thrive,



Jeff’s Java Hour from Chicklit Power

Wednesday, June 11th, 2014
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Hurry, grab your coffee and plan on staying just a little longer. I’m bursting with joy over something super exciting. I get to introduce a new series and a new blogger for CPM, someone who definitely speaks from his heart!

I am giggling right now as I get ready to introduce you to this new series beginning today called Wednesday’s Word! But even more exciting is how it came to be. We have been praying for guest bloggers to join us so more than one voice is sharing time with you and God has heard our prayer and He used Facebook to do it.

See, just Friday my assistant and I were scrolling through my news feed, pretty quickly, and I saw my son’s name and an out-of-the-ordinary amount of writing under it. “Stop!” I said rather abruptly to Lindsay and she scrolled back up and what I read rendered me in tears, tears of joy, tears of praise, and every other happy emotion you can sometimes only imagine! My son’s emotional and spiritual healing was happening, and it was right there on the screen for all to see!

Well, then reading how everyone responded to what he wrote was another happy-tears time and when I talked with him about it the next day, suddenly it hit me: this son of mine is a writer!

“Jeff,” I nearly screamed, “how about if you join the blogging team for CPM?”
His face lit up like a brand new light bulb. “Really?”

Jeff’s Java Hour @ Chicklit Power is born . . . May his first words render your soul spoken to… in love!

Oh man, God is Good!!! I always, and I mean always, forget that I am saved by grace, ya know. I could never be good enough or “Christian” enough to earn what God has given through faith in His son Jesus Christ. Faith! That’s it, not works.

In James, I believe chapter 4, he writes how if I have faith, true living-outside-of-my-comfort-zone faith, then my works will automatically fall in line with my belief.

I get so mad at other people sometimes thinking in my head that somehow they are different than I am, but they are not because God is still giving them air to breathe. He loves them just as much as He loves me. Even if they are not a “Christian,” and don’t believe or think as I do, God knew them and knit them together in their mothers’ womb. He still has a plan for them no matter what that is He knows.

So I am going to make a conscious decision today to stop being so angry at people and so easily offended and so unforgiving. You know when you think of a certain person and immediately you get ticked off? Well, me too, and that means that we haven’t forgiven that person. And God has told me in His word that to the extent that I am unable to forgive, I will also not be forgiven. He told me how can I say that I love Him but hate my brothers and sisters.

God’s truth sometimes hurts but it brings life with it and regeneration. The moment that I am unable to except truth in my life, even if it is from someone that it is hard to hear it from, that’s the moment that my heart begins to get a little harder. And you remember the story of the Pharaoh in Egypt; he hardened his heart to God and God can’t work with a hard heart.

Wheeeeeew! I am sorry for all of that but my heart just threw up through my fingers and now it feels a little lighter. So in closing, all of you, my friends. keep me accountable and never stop yourself from telling me or anyone else for that matter the truth; even if it is going to hurt our feelings. we need it.

Thank you, and I love you guys.

Jeff's Java


Come Laugh with Me @ Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
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Thanks so much for joining me for Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power! It’s great to be with you and sharing some humor with you while sipping from our coffee. Go ahead and grab yours and come on in for what I hope will produce a softened heart and another facet of our amazing Heavenly Father’s Son’s sense of humor, one of His most powerful tools used to soften the heart so He’s able to mold it!

Let’s do a little theological hopscotch on over to Luke, and as you’re making your way over to Chapter 6, let me just give you this little insight: The Gospels are loaded with personality and various interpretations. That one fact alone indicates a sense of humor by our Heavenly Father for He foreknew each of us, what type of learners we would be and how to best approach us with the opportunity to accept or reject the teachings of His Son! They each have something different to add to the events and teachings involving Christ, and this makes these lessons all the more valuable and alive! So as we leave Mark, whose writings are action-packed and highly evangelically motivated, and move on to Luke’s writings, let’s take with us this understanding: I saw something I wrote in my Bible that I want to share with you about the Gospels. The Gospels were written proclamations of redemptive history from theological perspectives!

Now let’s hop back on over to Luke, aka, Dr. Luke, who focuses on the birth of the Christ Child. Before we jump in, though, let’s talk a minute about Luke, because understanding who he was, what he did for a living adds a facet of humor to the reality of the Gospel message. He was a doctor, a scientist, and as a Greek, he was known as a man of detail – thank God, considering he was a doctor, and if he were my doctor, I’d want him to be all about the details, every last one of ‘em!

By the way, did you get that part about being a Greek? He was/is the only Gentile of all the Gospels! The other three were Jews!

What is truly affirming is the way he begins his writings: With the facts, just the facts. In other words, he’s not all warm and fuzzy! He traveled with Paul quite a bit and did a lot of what the news would deem interviewing. He had access to other historical accounts and he was an eyewitness to the birth and growth of the early church. His Gospel, as well as the Book of Acts, is considered reliable, historical documents – huge, huge in the “case for Christ!”

See, Luke picked up on what may seem like a small detail but is actually quite important in the journey with Jesus: laughter! In the midst of the Beatitudes, Jesus Himself promised that those who weep shall laugh. (Luke 6:21) How comforting is that?

But you have to ask yourself, how can Jesus give something He’s never experienced? I am convinced that Jesus laughed, a lot, and He recognized the need for humor and the truth that it is every bit as necessary for us as the suffering and joy. Laughter, therefore, is truly a heavenly gift!

We’ve only skimmed the surface of His humorous teachings, His hilarious one-liners woven into subtle but serious lessons of life. Join me tomorrow for the conclusion of Laugh with Me!


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Nana Holds-from Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Wednesday, January 29th, 2014
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Happy Wednesday to you and thanks so much for taking time out of your day to have coffee with me and share more of this series which is slowly coming to an end. Oh, how I wish I could drag it out and savor the beauty of it all. Grab your coffee and come join me and my girlfriend. I’ve just put a confession out there on the table!

With my fears exposed and out there for me to look at, I breathed a sigh of bittersweet relief.

“How ironic, huh?” I said to my girlfriend, almost with a chuckle.

“What do you mean?”

“Well, a year and a half ago, I wanted nothing to do with any of it, especially participating in raising a little one.” I stayed stuck on that truth for a few seconds, allowing it to soften my heart and allay my fears. “And now I want things to stay right where they are.”

A heavy sigh escaped again.

“I remember that,” my friend confirmed.

“Yeah, if anyone says God doesn’t have a sense of humor, they don’t really know Him.”

He loves his cooooookies!

He loves his cooooookies!

We sat there for some time, reminiscing about the difficult transitions we each had passed through, bringing with the passage an understanding of the difficulty of marriage, revealing us both desperately seeking to stay in our own lanes and not crash into our husband’s. She had been one person I had shared with during that difficult thirty-day trial because God had joined us in friendship with the common denominator: we were both in the throes of a difficult marriage, riding the roller-coaster of emotions that come with the reality and necessity for self-growth while trying desperately to hang on in our own car and not try and fix and/or change our spouse.

God knew my heart then, and He certainly knows the desire of it now; that my life would do the speaking so my words don’t hinder His will or work in my life and the lives of those He puts in my path. I yearn to allow my transparency and my desire for truth to be used for His glory and not mine, that it would encourage and equip others toward a deeper walk with Him.

What my friend said next rendered me faith-filled and fueled once again because you see, she had been coming to our events, had admitted to not liking church growing up and not raising her daughter in church, but little by little, her heart was changing and so were many of her choices, and therefore her life was transforming before my very eyes. She had not yet accepted Christ as her Savior but her life and her heart were headed that way. God used her that day to remind me of one of my very favorite life verses that, like all the others, has been proven to be true in each and every one of my circumstances, confirming that He does work ALL things together for my good and His glory.

Very matter-of-factly she said: “Well, He’s not going to leave you now. He’s brought you this far. It’s just another change.”

Oh, Coffee Hour friend, we have just a few coffee hours left with this series and let me say now that I wish I could share with you all the changes that are still taking place, but that will have to wait until He opens the door for Nana Prays, and I know He will because it’s another season of growth that I’m currently walking through and until I get through it, I can’t share it because I don’t have all the lessons from it learned quite yet.

In the meantime, join me tomorrow for more of what I am able to share in Nana Holds,


Nana holds . . . in her heart

Nana holds . . . in her heart

Nana Holds-from Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thursday, November 14th, 2013

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Grab your coffee and let’s get back to where we left off after praying for divine intervention in this new twist of events in the season of Nana Holds.

After praying, we talked about what was next, that is for the next night or two. They had decided Bryce would go to Jene’s who lives with her family. The plus about that is that her dad is one of the pastors for a mega church and he was reaching out to Bryce in a way that I was totally incapable of doing. I breathed a sigh of relief, knowing I had some time to wrestle with my emotions and get a grip on them so as to not cause more damage.

I also knew in my heart that Jene’s dad would help to keep Bryce busy because he understands that a mind stuck on idle is the devil’s workshop and where the plans to miss the mark begin! I hugged Jene’ to me and told her I loved her. What I didn’t tell her is what my heart was telling me: Our relationship had changed, and I understand now, but not quite as well then, that it needed to change from what it had been.

I met her years ago and I connected with her in a way that could only be described as heavenly ordained. See, I was a sort of

Bryce smiles . . . with Jene'

Bryce smiles . . . with Jene’

mentor for her spiritually and we had a sweet friendship based on mutual respect and honesty. I was allowed to be a voice in her life when others weren’t and then when she decided she wanted to go to school to become a court reporter, I felt that our connection was even more entwined with strength, love and respect. She has held a special place in my heart and I have always been protective of her.

As she has grown into a young woman, I have come to trust her judgment and I’ve always wanted only the best for her. I guess that’s why I was so surprised, and a bit hurt, that she didn’t call us as soon as she got the call from Bryce.

When I asked her why she didn’t call us to let us know what had happened before she went and picked him up, she very matter-of-factly said that she didn’t feel it was her place to tell us; that it was his. It’s not that she did something wrong, per se. It just stung finding out after the fact stung. But her answer also revealed why she hadn’t answered her phone each time we called to check on Bryden while we were away.

She was in heart-deep, and her love for him and determination to stand by him came through so clear in her response that all I could do was embrace the change that was taking place as far as our relationship and my role in her life.

Join me tomorrow for more of this life-changing series that continues to change me.


Nana Holds!

Nana Holds!


Nana Holds from Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thursday, August 8th, 2013

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It’s that time again, time for Coffee Hour and more of Nana Holds. Grab your coffee and let’s get back to that last thought-provoking question to reveal another symptom of rigidity in the relationship infection.

For every moral issue, there is an absolute answer; however, getting to that answer is, in my opinion, almost as important as the answer. Years ago, before I began this writing journey, I was attending junior college to determine what I wanted to be when I grew up! LOL! I was medically retired from court reporting in the courtroom and yet, I knew He created me to do other things as well. It was during this college experience that I began to “loosen up” from my rigid thinking on how others view moral issues.

Do you notice the difference? I didn’t compromise my own convictions and while I believe in the answers found in His Word to all moral issues, both at the workshop and now, I am consistently conscientious when it comes to coming across critical when voicing my opinion on moral issues. Did Jesus stand at the gates and yell “Turn or burn”? Didn’t He minister to the prostitute and dine with the money-hungry? And all the while, He never compromised His morality.

What is the difference between black and white? No, it’s not gray; it’s grace. Let me give you one more thought to help with this symptom. I learned this while leading a women’s study, “A Woman’s Heart, God’s Own Dwelling Place” by Beth Moore. The word “truth” in Hebrew means: “an unveiled reality.” What is that truth speaking to you? Could it be that what has become unveiled for you hasn’t become a reality to another? Let’s stay here for just a few moments.

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Nana Holds 2-23-13

I’m going to dare tackle a very confrontational issue: Homosexuality. Could it be that the unveiled reality for many Christians of there being no “gay” DNA hasn’t become a reality to most homosexuals because God isn’t real for or to them? I know what the Word of God says about this difficult issue; and while I don’t agree with the lifestyle, I can continue to pray that the unveiled reality of God’s love that has helped me unveil many more truths would become their truth too.

We could spend hours on moral issues but nothing changes the truth that we are, as much as possible with us, to live peaceably with others and let Him be God to the immoral.

Let’s end our time by pondering how truths have been unveiled for us in our personal journeys.

In His love and grace,


Nana Holds!

Nana Holds!