The Bachelor (2)

From the time we are little girls and begin to notice boys, all through our pre-teens, into our teens and into our young adulthood, and for some of us, even mid life, we continue to buy into and chase “the fairy tale.” We fall for it hook, line and sinker all the time. That’s why we watch this show, because we still believe in fairy tales. But why is it that “love” and “fairy tale” seem to be always linked together? Could this be the root of the problem?
Before we explore this, let me give you an interesting and positive fact about Chris Harrison: Did you know he’s been married for 16 years? That’s awesome and noteworthy. I’d so love to get inside his marriage and see what “romance” looks like for him and his bride. Maybe I’ll send him a message and ask him if I could ask him a couple of questions… Hmmm, there’s a thought.
Getting back to last night, there were a couple of key things Jake said that I’d like to call some attention to, the first of which actually makes some sense. He said that “You really get to know a person when you see a person interact with their family and you see where they grew up.” That actually has a lot of merit which we’ll explore later in the blog series.
I can’t count the number of times he said, “I’m ‘falling in love’ with all four of them”; I’m ‘falling in love’ with more than one woman.” Let your brain wrap around those words for a minute. Do you see a contradiction anywhere? It has to do with “falling in love.” This kind of love is not lasting, merely based on feelings. In other words, feelings are what’s steering his ride, and soon, he will be falling OUT of love, almost as quickly as he’s fallen in, because he, like all of us, tend to get “caught up” in the feeling of “falling in” love. I believe, though, that Jake is capable of receiving and giving true love, which I’ll define at the end of this blog. Before I do that, let me say that there were two other things that Jake said that I wholeheartedly agreed with. One was: “Life is about minimizing your regrets, and the second one, and I believe he meant it, was: “I have a burning desire to get to know her heart.” Of course, I do have to wonder, if the exterior packaging weren’t so beautiful, would he still have that same “burning desire” to know her heart.
The true definition of love is actually found in 1st Corinthians 13:4-8. Want to know how you rate within the definition of true love? Every time you see the word “love” in this paragraph, put your name in its place, and ask yourself if that statement is now true. Now, don’t go beating yourself up; instead let it challenge you, stretch you, grow you in your own love relationship and/or your need for love. I must add that this definition proves without a shadow of a doubt our need for grace!
Love is patient; love is kind. Love does not envy; love does not parade itself. Love is not puffed up; love does not behave rudely. Love does not seek its own; love is not provoked. Love thinks no evil; love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth. Love bears all things; love believes all things; love hopes all things; love endures all things. Love never fails.
Wouldn’t there be fewer divorces if we practiced this kind of love?

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8 Responses to “The Bachelor (2)”

  1. Gail says:

    Yes, there would be far less divorces if we all practiced that kind of love. Allowing myself to get caught up in the drama of the last show, I was felt like I was having a flashback of the whole Jillian and Ed thing last season. And watching the previews for next week, I will really be disappointed if the same thing happens in the end of this show. I know that talking about the actual details of the show itself isn’t necessarily the point of the blog, but I still wanted to comment on my frustration with the lastest happenings. I do like Jake, and hoping that in the end, everything that he says is of value to him, is true. We will see. Thanks for your committment in sharing your opinions on real love.

  2. Valerie says:

    I always knew you were a great writer, but I really had no idea how incredible you are!!! You have such insight, opinions, thoughts on relationships. How old are you really? (LOL) And you write in a way that is so easy to read. Like you are having a conversation with each of us individually.

    And I LOVE your website. Can you believe you have a website??? WOW!

    Love checking in every day, seeing what’s on your mind.

    Lots of love…Valerie

  3. admin says:

    What a sweet, sweet way you have about you… I’m SO glad there’s you and knowing you keep checking in at the site gives me wings, girl… Bless you!!! Hugs

  4. admin says:

    Thanks for sharing… It makes writing worth while. Your comments are so true; just goes to show the validity of the reason behind the blog…

  5. admin says:

    Yes, I’m excited about it, too!!!!! Good stuff

  6. Lee Todhunter says:

    I have just discovered that I can actually SEE the comments that have been made about a particular blog. WOW.
    The responses to your blogs are really deep and thoughtful. I am so impressed with the ability of so many people to share their feelings so well.

  7. neenee says:

    I am soooo blessed by your obedience to your calling from Abba Daddy. You amaze me sister….. Keep bringing it on!!!

  8. admin says:

    Hugs and blessings right back at you, you incredibly special friend/sis